Grief (from childloss) is like....
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Grief is like being a duck...
Above the surface.....looking compsed and unruffled.
Below the surface.....Paddling like crazy!

Grief is like wading in the ocean.
It hits you like a wave that  you weren't expecting, and knocks you over. 
Then you get back up, and just in time to get hit by another wave,
but this time you don't fall over. 
Then you experiance a brief calm before the next wave hits,
and you stand in it and get a little stronger. 
Then the calm again before the next wave hits. 
Then the next wave comes...and so on. 
As time goes on you realize how close together the waves were initially,
and how they have spread apart over time,
and how less difficult it is to stand against the waves
because you have become stronger because of them


Grief is like being  lost in the hot desert and
always seeing a glass of water in the distance,
You are wanting that glass of water more then anything,
You have been walking so long and you are so weak and tired
but the glass just does not seem to be getting any closer,
At times if seems as through it is further away.


Grief is like a roller coaster... About the time you finally make it
up the BIG hill, You come racing back down even faster..
Its a ride you as a grieving parent might feel that you have NO control~!


Grief  is like being lost in a maze,
You dont know where your going and
you dont know where you have been. 
No matter how hard you try to find a way out,
you end up back where you started!


Grief (from Childloss) is like Bungee Jumping...

Its like being rushed to the tip of a high cliff and without warning and bearly clinging to the harness
your are pushed off the cliff.The drop is so intense - Your frightened more then you ever have been. . The free fall happens so fast you bearly get time to catch your breath and be aware of your surroundings.Your body tight from fear, you want to scream but cannot seem to get anything out! Many thoughts are rushing through your head. You know what is happening but cannot seem to stop it - You keep asking myself is this real....
The numbness starts to where off when you for only a second see your almost to the bottom... That is where your family and friends along with strangers who are just watching to see what you are going to do and how your going to handle it are waiting for you.... You feel some comfort knowing they are there and are worried for you too. Awww... finally your so close to having your feet on the ground when without notice your jerked back up into the air ALONE... but this time your body is jerked around ... spinning..... the world around seems to be out of control.
You just want to be back on the ground with everyone else.... When it looks like that just might happen... The ground is ripped out under you again... This time your getting tired - Your now moving slowly ... Your body hurts, You feel sick... You wonder what just happened... You can bearly recall what your 1st feelings were... Finally there is no choice but to be back on the group.. Stumbing around you the crowd that was once surrounding you has vanished... Only a few remain.Your still in shock about what just happened... It wasent nothing you chose - & the feeling will never go away.


Grief is like a sharp pain and a dull ache
combined in to a continuous Heartache......

Grief is like a hurricane
meandering in its path
but nevertheless picking up strength;
eventually it will come ashore
with perhaps devastating consequences.

- Harold Ivan Smith


A life sentence of a broken heart

Grief is like living through an earthquake daily,
every fiber of me is shaken. 
It is a jagged pathway, now, sometimes I can see ahead,
other times the path is obscured,
and I fall into deep holes unprepared for the tumble.
It takes me some time, then, to crawl back upwards.


Grief is like wearing a heavy, weighted down jacket.
Not being able to move around naturally.
Feeling tired all the time. Not being able to handle the pressure.



Grief is like living a daily lie,
You smile when your not happy,
laugh when you want to cry,  
go on when you feel like quiting,
but most of pretending your strong when your not !

Grief is like a never-ending road that hypnotizes you forever. 
The white lines that are down the side and the yellow center line are
simple guides that we follow but the road keeps going and going. 
At times it may seem bumpy, curvy, and even straight...
even a couple times you might feel like you are going down hill
and having a smooth ride but then all of a sudden
the vast majority hits you and once again you are traveling uphill


Grief is like a knife stabbing you in the chest.

Grief is like spinning out of control.

Grief  is like having your heart stolen form you!

Grief is like the pounding of a rushing waterfall -
The force is so strong it takes your breath away.

Grief is like having a contagious disease ....
No-one wants to be around you anymore!

Grief work is like a ball of string.
You start with an end and wind.
Then the ball slips through
your fingers and rolls across the floor.
Some of your work is undone, but not all.
You pick it up and start over again,
but you never have to begin
again at the end of the string.
The ball never completely unwinds.
You`ve made some progress.

Author Unknown

The Road to Grief is ALWAYS under construction~

"Grief is like a long valley, a winding valley,
where any bend may reveal a totally new landscape"
~ C. S. Lewis ~

Grief comes in one size .... EXTRA LARGE
If we tuck it away in the bottom drawer
where it never sees the light of day,
it remains exactly the same.
On the other hand,
if we wear it, feel it, talk about it,
and share it with others,
it is likely that it will become faded, shrunk and worn,
or will simply no longer fit.
When grief has served its purpose,
we are able to recognize the many gifts we have gained.

The Loss of A Child / Natural Disaster

 The Loss of a child is alot like being hit by a natural disaster....
Unexpectedly your life being torn upside down by a force beyond your control -
You are left empty, confused and heartbroken!
The only difference is... After a natural disaster family, friends sometimes the
whole town or community all pitches in and helps until your life is put back together..
No matter how long it takes!
With the loss of a child, Many do not see the the effects after the first few days
and many times you are left alone to pick up the pieces
that can NEVER be put back together again!
Doris (ALNF Moderator)



Grief from the death of a child is like a stone cast into the stillness of a quiet pool;
the concentric ripples of despair sweep out in all directions, affecting many, many people.

Grief

Grief is like a jagged rock that you bury deep in
your pocket,  It's sharp edges forcing you to take
it out and examine it from time to time.
Even when you do not want to.

And when it is too heavy to carry,
you must ask a friend to hold it so you can rest.

As time passes it is a little easier to
take the rock out of your pocket. 
It doesn't seem to weigh as much.

Now you show it to a circle of friends and,
occasionally, even a stranger.

One day you pull out the rock and suprisingly,
it doesn't really hurt as much.

For the edges are no longer jagged but
smoothed out by time, touch and tears.

Author unknown

When Does Grief End?

Grief hits us like a ton of bricks,
flattens us like a steamroller,
hurls us into the depths of despair. 
We know in a flash when grief hits,
but when does it end? 
Like the month of March,
grief rushes in like a lion
and tiptoes out like a lamb. 
Sometimes, we don't know when grief leaves,
because we won't let go of the lion's tail.
Why do we hold on so long? 
Grief offers us safety,
protection from the world. 
We don't want to let go
because we secretly fear
that we'll forget our loved ones,
and we don't want to forget – ever. 
We don't want to let go
because we fear the future
and having to face life without our loved ones.
We don't want to let go
because we make the mistake
of measuring our grief with the depth of our love –
when neither has anything to do with the other.
How do we know when grief has run its course? 
How do we know when we've grieved enough? 
Cried enough? 
"Died" enough? 
How do we know when it's time to let go of the tail? 
We know when we feel joy again, in something or someone. 
Joy in living.  Joy in life. 
We know when we wake up in the morning
and our first thought is on something other than our loss. 
We know when we look ahead with a smile
and back with fond memories,
and when we no longer dread the nights. 
We know when our life starts filling up with new interests and people,
and we start reaching for the stars
Grief ends when we let go of the tail.

Margareet Brownley,
Reprinted with Permission from Bereavement Publishing, In



Birth Announcement of Grief

Weight-as heavy as my heart
inches-as big as my heart

Grief came as you were leaving, taking the place you had been.
Grief stole the hearts of many.
The labor was intense (grief labor that is) and hard.
At times it seemed almost too much to bear.
I asked for help with the intense pain and
God gave me his kind of epidural.
He gave me his hand to squeeze when the pain was too much.
He gave me rest when I was too tired to go on.
He gave me strength to continue to push.
Finally, He gave me peace that surpasses all understanding.

By Rachal McIntyre
Dedicated to my two precious angels



Grieving is as natural
as crying when you are hurt,
sleeping when you are tired,
eating when you are hungry
or sneezing when your nose itches.
It's nature's way of healing a broken heart.
A cut finger is numb before it bleeds.
It bleeds before it hurts.
It hurts until it begins to heal.
It forms a scab and itches until finally,
the scab is gone and a small scar is left
where once there was a wound.
Grief is the deepest wound you will ever have.
Like a cut finger, 
it goes through stages and leaves a scar.
When you try to help someone heal from their pain,
chances are you are probably healing yourself.
Listen to the words 
within your own heart.

The Compassionate Friends



Every grief is as individual as a fingerprint. How is it possible to describe grief?
It is a different experience for everyone.
The problem with grief is it is not only the unbearable burden of pain which characterizes it, but the unpredictability. When you got to the dentist, you known what to expect - the pain of the drill will last 15 or 20 minutes... But our grief is unbounded by time. It is an ache that comes and goes and the fact that out pain is deep within the recesses of our consciousness makes it inacessible. Greif is an infection, not of the body but of the sould.

Facing The Ultimate Loss - Coping with the Death of a Child
(Book)



What Grief Represents to Me

Grief is a strange phenomenon --
it's like going through a storm
with sheets of rain flowing from your heart
and stumbling to find your way out
only to realize that to heal
you have to go through it and not around it --
There is no escaping it;
it is part of living and acceptance of your grief.



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