Dear Dr. Noetahl
As
I have grown older I am racked with self doubt and my mind is filled
with
confusion. What is the point of it all anyway?
Bob
Well Bob
Two
questions,
last first: Bob, there ain't no point! Being aware is really a great
thing.
It just seems to us there has got to be some reason why we aren't
rocks.
I can assure you that this need for a point to life is a by product of
being aware. First last: Confusion, self doubt sounds healthy to me.
Seems
like you ain't jumping to conclusions anymore, but have a little wisdom
thing nagging at your thinking process (hope this isn't too technical).
Don't get carried away with thinking about your existence. You are
here,
you do exist, enjoy it!
Well
Bob
The
first
thing that came to mind was the Beatles song "Fool on the Hill" the
song
that celebrates eccentricity. Just a thought.
If you
want to fit in then you have a problem, but if you really don't care if
you fit in, then you have two problems. We exist in our bodies
and
our bodies are the result of millions of years of group interaction
dealing
with the problems of getting food, providing shelter and reproducing.
This
is what we are. The views you that you say are causing you problems are
just froth. Important froth, powerful froth, but just froth. What you
are
seeking is not ideas, but happiness.
If you
think fitting in will make you happy my recommendation is just
pretend!
Do those little human things with other humans, hang in there and try
to
act like someone you admire for their people skills. The skills might
soon
become second nature to you. Pretend you're normal.
You
should
also have an expression for your eccentricity. A little structured
thing
may be at a certain time each week, so you can still be you. The cool
thing
about this is if you still don't find happiness you can go see a shrink
and they can put you on drug therapy like millions of other Americans.
Go for it Bob.