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The acronyms in the subtitle of this page carry various negative connotations but for many people they describe positive lifestyle choices. The first, D/s, refers to Dominance/submission and reflects the basic nature of relationships and the way of the world in general. The second, BDSM, stands for Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, Masochism and although the four aspects are found in human behaviors to varying degrees, the context here regards lifestyle and sexual choices.

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"Sometimes love gets battered and torn and we just have to
recycle it making it brand new!" ~ Fran Hafey/Mysti

Recycled Love
By Fran Hafey/Mysti

I often overhear people telling others how this or that happened when they were a child and that's why they are the way they are today. They feel that they didn't get enough love, or their parents loved their sibling more, or they just had it tough. Funny, how we perceive things when we're a child.

I have observed that most children whine less about a lot of things than adults. They are usually quite happy with what they have and how they are loved, until someone shows them something different or takes it away.

Not all people love the same and not all people can love everyone the same way. There are many kinds of love.

Over the years while walking my spiritual path, I have remembered my childhood and worked through times when I didn't feel so loved. I felt that my Mother was too busy with my siblings and I was the "different" child and my Father, he worked too much and was always tired.

My parents gave me the love they knew and more, and I appreciate that very much. They took the love they were given and shown as children, grew up and had to recycle some of it to pass onto their children.

Recycle you say? Yes, often we have to take the love we get and sometimes its not so perfect or pretty or even that clean, so we have to take it, clean it up, remember it all, but toss out the bad parts, take the good parts and put them all together again. We recycle the love and learn to love even better!

It's like aluminum cans. We buy them, drink what's in them, we crush them and take them to the recycle center. The recycle center takes them and melts them back down and makes all new cans. They come out looking shiny and new for us to use all over again. In this whole process we had to do our part, we had to make an effort to take those used cans, empty and crushed, back to the recycle center to be made new again.

Love is like that. You may feel used and crushed...you may not feel so new anymore, bogged down with problems and wondering what to do next. Maybe you need a big change in your life and happiness. That all begins right there within you with the resources you already have.

It's time for you to find what you need in your life and clean it up, toss out the bad parts and take the good parts and put the "new you" all back together again. It's a matter of processing, of accepting that maybe your life has had some rough spots, but without the rough spots, how would we grow?

The love we have had or been shown up to now, may not have been perfect and we long for better love and a better life. You CAN have that, I mean, just look where you are right now!! You're reading this and that means changes are occurring in your life, right now!!

Take the love you have and recycle it. Remember the process can take time. Take that love, that you feel is inadequate and change it into a new love that makes your heart soar and know that you are always loved. You are love and you can share the love you have.

Recycled love is a love that has seen its worse days but now, starting right now, you can reshape that crushed love, that old love, that used up love and recycle it into a beautiful new love, because you are love. You are a being that loves love and loves to share love. What we share we always get back, in so many ways.

Recognize that love and light in your life today and get to work recycling!!

Copyright: Mystickblue (c) February, 2004 All rights reserved.

About the Author

Fran Hafey is a Spiritual Counselor, Writer, Healer, Earth Activist and Lightworker. She provides guidance and inspiration via her Website, groups and newsletter through the Internet and other Resources. To read more of her articles visit the Author's Website: http://Mystickblue.com or http://groups.yahoo.com/group/SpiritualPathways/join or contact at: Mystiblu@earthlink.net She's currently working on publishing her own books about Love, peace, Inspiration, magic, Soul connections and nature stories for Children of all ages.

"Common Sense and Common Courtesy Apply to A/all"

Enigma's "Golden Rule"

A Dark Whisper of Sound - An outstanding and beautiful site with an abundance of information including original writings and artwork.
A Learning Home - A "chat room" home page, presenting concepts and rules for those who wish to experience "Gor on Earth".
Ambrosio's BDSM Site - A straightforward, pragmatic site presented by a self described "single professional web nerd in his mid thirties" and "sensual Top" in Texas.
a quiet solace - The personal site of a female submissive, presenting original writings and photography relating to her personal exploration of D/s and enjoyment of life in general.
Brame, Dr. Gloria G. - "an eclectic site for literate adults"... the home page of the acclaimed sex/relationship counselor and lead author of "Different Loving".
Caring Domination - Sensitive and informative, this site offers advice from a Domme's perspective.
DomSubNation - quoting from the site..."This site is intended as an educational site, where people can share their views, interests, writings and questions. Where anyone can come and view selected links that we hope will help to educate them about D/S."
~ Welcome to The Fair Downs ~ - quoting from the site... "inside these pages you will find frank discussion about a real-life husband/wife, Dominant/submissive relationship".
The life of the Marquis de Sade - a biography of the man and his philosophies.
IE Internal Enslavement vs Slave Training - A thoughtful exploration of Total Power Exchange.
Inkink.org - InKinK is an organization for participants in the support, entertainment and education of the Indiana Kink Community.
Leather and Roses - Originally an IRC channel home page, it stands on it's own as a good reference, discussion & resource site.
Leather Family - Sovereign House - A "Family Homepage" focusing on real world activities of the members.
Magic's WorldLove - quoting from the site "dedicated to the simple concept of Sensual Enlightenment. for the intelligent, sensual adult, who is searching for more".
MAsT Directory Page - Masters And slaves Together - An organization for adults who live the Dominant/submissive lifestyle.
Master Stern & slave yielding's BDSM Lifestyle - A personal view of the lifestyle and a wealth of other information & resources.
NOBLE - New Orleans Bondage & Leather Enthusiasts. Quoting the site... "This site is intended to offer information about NOBLE and our upcoming events, as well as act as a showcase for subjects of interest to our members."
QCDs - Quad Cities D/s Group, Eastern Iowa & Western Illinois. This group home page offers good general information and some very good, specific tips & techniques.
Real Life D-s - Personal writings & opinions of real life people involved in the D/s lifestyle.
Restraints and Rewards D-s resources - An extensive and classy site of D/s resources, up to date and encouraging input & participation.
Safe Haven F-family Home - A "chat room" home page, focusing on "real life" D/s lifestyle and serious discussion of D/s topics.
Safe, Sane, and Consensual Network - Quoting the site... "SSCN is a not-for-profit BDSM organization dedicated to providing education, support, and a social network for its contributors in a safe, responsible, and discretion-conscious environment."
Sensuous Sadie's Domain - Sadie is the author of "It's Not About the Whip" and her site is a window into the spirituality of D/s.
Sir-Robin's Submissive Help Page - A good place to explore submission, lotsa links and some original writings.
Society for Human Sexuality - Quoting the site... "We are a social and educational organization whose purpose is to promote understanding and appreciation for the many forms of adult intimate relationships and consensual sexual expression."
The Castle Realm D-s Resource Center - A great site, one of Enigma's favorites, with a wealth of resources, realistic insight, practical suggestions and nice artwork.
The Crucible - a BDSM nightclub in Washington DC
The Indianapolis Munch - Quoting the site... "The Indianapolis Munch is Indiana's oldest and largest gathering of the Indiana BDSM/Pansexual Community." The site contains info about the recurring event & links to other groups.
The Leather Orchid - An excellent collection of original writings & insights by Metallic.
Two Hearts...One Soul Love Never Dies - An informative and personal site of a married, D/s couple.

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