Martin's Story

Hello, my name is Martin, and my wife recently just tried to commit suicide. She called me while on my way to work and left me a voicemail saying she didn't want to be here anymore. I rushed home and took about 2 hrs before I cold get the knife away. I also called her parents who in turn called the police and took her to the mental hospital and had her there for a few days. I’ve been going through this since after our little girl was born and it was even hard through her pregnancy. Other people who I know have gone through this but nearly as bad. My wife even wanted to leave me saying that I would be happier with someone else. But she doesn't understand the things I’m doing for her to prove I want to be there and help, but you know how it goes and what us guys hear, "You're just a man, and you’ll never understand!"  I know I’m not the only one who has heard it.  I might not understand, but I understand she’s going through something, and counseling doesn’t help.

1 Week Later

Right now we have begun talking to a counselor/psychiatrist. But to no avail, that has not been working. She was just recently released by the hospital and they gave her a lot of drugs. But for me it’s hard trying to be so helpful and understanding, and all this rejection is getting to me. She has no regard of me because I am a man and will never understand. But it is difficult. She even wanted me to end the relationship with her because she felt as if she was holding me back. But women don’t realize the type of men we used to be, all the women we would date, and the dirt we've gotten into with our friends, now, we are being responsible men, dealing with wives, baby mommas, or even girlfriends of our children, not being the same person we used to but get no recognition for it. So I'm like, if I leave or if she does, I might go back to being how I used to. Primarily because as you know as we go through our wives Post Partum Depression, we get cut off the love as well. So it makes it hard. And even more so since that I want to be by her side, but keep getting pushed away.

12 Months Later 

Hello there, I know it has been a long while since I have contacted you guys. Since my last email things have gotten a little bit better, but not really. I learned that if you just leave them alone, you’re neglecting them and if you show you care you’re smothering. It’s almost an unattainable matter to make your wife happy enough. Then you have to deal with the rejection, lack of intimacy. My spouse even told me I could sleep with other women....which I have not done.