Is Al-Anon For You

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Is Al-Anon For You?

Millions of people are affected by the excessive drinking of someone close. The following twenty questions are designed to help you decide whether or not you need Al-Anon:

Do you worry about how much someone else drinks?

Do you have money problems because of someone else's drinking?

Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else's drinking?

Do you feel that drinking is more important to your loved one than you are?

Do you think that the drinker's behavior is caused by his or her companions?

Are meals frequently delayed because of the drinker?

Do you make threats, such as, "If you don't stop drinking, I'll leave you"?

When you kiss the drinker hello, do you secretly try to smell his or her breath?

Are you afraid to upset someone for fear it will set off a drinking bout?

Have you been hurt or embarrassed by a drinker's behavior?

Does it seem as if every holiday is spoiled because of drinking?

Have you ever considered calling the police because of drinking behavior?

Do you find yourself searching for hidden liquor?

Do you feel that if the drinker loved you, he or she would stop drinking to please you?

Have you ever refused social invitations out of fear or anxiety?

Do you sometimes feel guilty when you think of the lengths you have gone to control the drinker?

Do you think that if the drinker stopped drinking, your other problems would be solved?

Do you ever threaten to hurt yourself to scare the drinker into saying "I'm sorry," or "I love you"?

Do you ever treat people (children, employees, parents, co-workers, etc.) unjustly because you are angry at someone else for drinking too much?

Do you feel there is no one who understands your problems?

If you have answered YES to three or more of these questions, Alanon or Alateen may be able to provide you with the help you need to live a more comfortable life. You can contact Alanon or Alateen by looking in your local telephone directory or by writing to:

Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc.
1600 Corporate Landing Parkway
Virginia Beach, VA 23454-5617
Tel: (757) 563-1600
Fax: (757) 563-1655

Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters (Canada) Inc.
Capital Corporate Centre
9 Antares Drive, Suite 245
Ottawa, ON K2E 7V5
Tel: (613) 723-8484
fax: (613) 723-0151

Purpose & Suggestions

AL-ANON FAMILY GROUPS

Al-Anon is a fellowship of men, women and children whose lives have been affected by the compulsive drinking of a family member or friend.

Whether or not the alcoholic has found sobriety, the family and friends can do a great deal to help themselves as well as the alcoholic.

PURPOSE

Each Al-Anon Family Group has one purpose:

to help families and friends of alcoholics.

This is achieved by:

Offering comfort, hope and friendship to the families and friends of comlpulsive-drinkers.
Providing the opportunity to learn to grow spiritually through living by the Twelve Steps adopted from Alcoholics Anonymous and
Sharing experience in coping with the disease of alcoholism and how the program helps in giving understanding and encouragement to the alcoholic.

Membership in a group and regular attendance at meetings has shown us new ways to deal with our problem. We have found friends who understand. We are part of a constructive program to achieve personal fulfillment and a new way of life. In Al-Anon we seek to improve ourselves. We learn that our growth and serenity depend on not criticizing or condemning the alcoholic or discussing his shortcomings with others. Strict avoidance of gossip preserve group unity and protects the anonymity of our members and those of AA. Our program is spiritual, but not religious.

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