to rants page.
- do you have a problem with that?Well, in college, a friend described me as 'Evil, but harmless'.
I find it hard to think of people as evil. For most of my life, I have denied the validity of the concept. I felt that each person acts according to his or her own moral code, and that, if I worked hard enough to understand the other person any tendancy I might have to judge him or her would fade.
In practice, I've met only one person of whom this is false - a woman who deliberately chooses to break her own moral code, because any guilt she feels is used to work her into an emotional pitch, which she can 'only' release by pursuing a form of sexual pleasure which she would otherwise deny herself. I'm not making this up! Of course, even years before she 'gave in' to her 'darker' desires I never heard her voice a moral stance without immediately following up with '...but I can't do that...'.
So there is at least one evil person in the world. Probably more. Whether Evil is due to (dum-do-dum!) Supernatural Forces or deep seated emotional problems I cannot say (although I might well give it a try at some point).
I've been called this, for starting Women in Gaming.
Let's face it, if you take a moral stance on ANYTHING, with any degree of conviction whatsoever, somebody will call you a name. This is particularly true on the net, where people often forget that their words will reach another real live, flesh and blood person.
For my part, I try not to flame, and I try not to let the flames get to me. I don't always succeed in either attempt.
I've been called this, too. But it seems to me that I do more damage, both to myself and to others, when I try to AVOID the label. I've really messed myself up in the past by not speaking up when something bothered me.
I'm also notorious at missing 'subtle' cues (not just on line, but in person too). It's connected, in part, to my NYC jewish heritage (my maternal grandmother's parents) and to my ADD (that comes from my father). Some people find that hard to deal with and, unfortunately, those are the very people who won't tell me they have a problem with it.
All I can say is, telling me I'm getting on your nerves is appreciated, at least, in the long run. Telling me you're fine with me when you're not is asking for trouble.
I'm not a Domme, I'm a Top.