Granduncle Mark's Genealogy Parlor
What's A
Second-Cousin Twice-Removed?
'Removed' indicates that the two people being compared
are a different number of generations away from their
common ancestor.
The other part of the phrase, 'first cousin,'
'second cousin,' 'third cousin,' etc., describes
the relationship of two people
who are/were in the same generation.
There is no 'removed' used for people with the same
grandparents. They are simply first cousins.
Similarly, two people whose first common ancestors are the same
great-grandparents are second cousins.
But, if John's grandmother is Mary, while that same
Mary is great-great-grandmother to Melissa, then
John and Melissa are 'first cousins twice removed.'
This is because you have to go back two generations
on Melissa's family tree to find the 'first cousin'
of John.
Put another way, Melissa's grandparent is first cousin
to John, so John and Melissa are 'first cousins twice removed.'
So, that is how I calculated that I am FIRST COUSIN REMOVED TEN TIMES
of William PENN -- Because I am a
great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-grandson of
Lawrence ROUTH (Born 1660 in Hawes,
Yorkshire, England, who was a first cousin of William Penn.)
On the other hand, I calculated that I am the
SECOND COUSIN REMOVED SIX TIMES of U. S. President, Zachary TAYLOR
-- Because I am a great-great-great-great-grandson of
his second cousin, John Taylor.
There were few enough people in America one, two and three
centuries ago, that almost everyone who isn't a recent
immigrant can find a relationship to a famous American.
So, remember this equation and have fun searching for your
renowned American ancestors!
Diagrams in the following boxes
illustrate this cousin scheme.
PLUS: Your questions answered below !!!
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Illustration of Cousins Removed
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Chart to Calculate Cousin Relationships
From CompuServe's Genealogy Forums
On the top row, find the relationship of one person to the common ancestor and follow
the column straight down. Find the other persons relationship to the common ancestor on
the left hand column and follow that row straight across. The relationship is where the
projected row & column meet.
Common Ancestor |
Child |
Grandchild |
Great Grandchild |
Great Great Grandchild |
Great Great Great Grandchild |
Great Great Great Great Grandchild |
Great Great Great Great Great Grandchild |
Great Great Great Great Great Great Grandchild |
Child |
Sibling |
Niece or Nephew |
Grand Niece or Nephew |
Great Grand Niece or Nephew |
Great Great Grand Niece or Nephew |
Great Great Great Grand Niece or Nephew |
Great Great Great Great Grand Niece or Nephew |
Great Great Great Great Great Grand Niece or Nephew |
Grandchild |
Niece or Nephew |
First Cousin |
First Cousin Once Removed |
First Cousin Twice Removed |
First Cousin Three Times Removed |
First Cousin Four Times Removed |
First Cousin Five Times Removed |
First Cousin Six Times Removed |
Great Grandchild |
Grand Niece or Nephew |
First Cousin Once Removed |
Second Cousin |
Second Cousin Once Removed |
Second Cousin Twice Removed |
Second Cousin Three Times Removed |
Second Cousin Four Times Removed |
Second Cousin Five Times Removed |
Great Great Grandchild |
Great Grand Niece or Nephew |
First Cousin Twice Removed |
Second Cousin Once Removed |
Third Cousin |
Third Cousin Once Removed |
Third Cousin Twice Removed |
Third Cousin Three Times Removed |
Third Cousin FourTimes Removed |
Great Great Great Grandchild |
Great Great Grand Niece or Nephew |
First Cousin Three Times Removed |
Second Cousin Twice Removed |
Third Cousin Once Removed |
Fourth Cousin |
Fourth Cousin Once Removed |
Fourth Cousin Twice Removed |
Fourth Cousin Three Times Removed |
Great Great Great Great Grandchild |
Great Great Great Grand Niece or Nephew |
First Cousin Four Times Removed |
Second Cousin Three Times Removed |
Third Cousin Twice Removed |
Fourth Cousin Once Removed |
Fifth Cousin |
Fifth Cousin Once Removed |
Fifth Cousin Twice removed |
Great Great Great Great Great Grandchild |
Great Great Great Great Grand Niece or Nephew |
First Cousin Five Times Removed |
Second Cousin Four Times Removed |
Third Cousin Three Times Removed |
Fourth Cousin Twice Removed |
Fifth Cousin Once Removed |
Sixth Cousin |
Sixth Cousin Once Removed |
Great Great Great Great Great Great Grandchild |
Great Great Great Great Great Grand Niece or Nephew |
First Cousin Six Times Removed |
Second Cousin Five Times Rremoved |
Third Cousin FourTimes Removed |
Fourth Cousin Three Times Removed |
Fifth Cousin Twice Removed |
Sixth Cousin Once Removed |
Seventh Cousin |
Your first cousin once removed is either:
- the child of your first cousin
- or the child of your grand-aunt/uncle
Why are they 'removed?'
---- Because they are in a
different generation than you,
when compared to the
most recent ancestor that you have in common!
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CAUTIONS
We Americans tend to call the siblings of our grandparents
"great-uncle" and "great-aunt." The correct terms are
actually "grand-uncle" and "grand-aunt."
Go back another generation and we have our
"great-grandparents," "great-grand-uncles," and
"great-grand-aunts."
(Actually, this correct terminology is easier
when you get used to it.
Everyone in any given generation is referred to with the same
number of "grand" and "greats.")
English kinship terminology .... contains the following principal terms:
mother, father, son, daughter, brother, sister
uncle, aunt, nephew, niece
cousin (differently elaborated in different English speaking cultures)
grandfather, grandmother, grandson, granddaughter
granduncle, grandaunt, grandniece, grandnephew (in many dialects)
plus
great-grandmother, great-great-grandmother etc.
and
great-grandfather, great-great-grandfather etc.
there are also the affinal terms:
wife, husband, brother-in-law, sister-in-law, mother-in-law and father-in-law as well as uncle and aunt.
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Be aware that the term "cousin" was used loosely during
an early period of American history, and could be referring to a
cousin, uncle or other relative.
Americans tend to call the children of their first cousins, their own
"second cousins." That is wrong. Remember the rule about
counting the number of generations to the common ancestor
to see if there are any "removeds" to add to the cousin title.
In this case, the children of our first cousins are our
"first-cousins once-removed."
Hope this helps!
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In Other Words
In case my explanations still have not made it clear, I am quoting below the clever
explanation of Duane F. Alwin.
The word "cousin" has a variety of meanings, some of which are
more precise than others. We often use the word in a general way
to refer to any collaterally related persons more distant than
siblings who share a common ancestor. When we want to be more
specific, we use the term in a different way: cousins (or first
cousins) are the children of siblings. That is to say, the
children of my aunts and uncles are my first cousins.
Second cousins, on the other hand, are the children of first
cousins, and third cousins are the children of second cousins,
and so on. In other words, my second cousins are the children of
my parents' first cousins, and my third cousins are the
grandchildren of my grandparents' first cousins.
The degree of cousinness, thus, simply follows generational
lines, given kinship relations defined by a common ancestor. By
contrast, when one crosses generational lines to express
relationships among cousins in an adjacent generation or across
several generations, one normally expresses these cousin
relations as "once removed" or "twice removed" according to how
many generations separate the related individuals. Thus, one is
a first cousin once removed (1C1R) to his or her parents' first
cousins, or to the children of his or her first cousins.
I have always gotten a kick out of telling people that I am a
cousin to myself. My maternal grandparents were first cousins
once removed -- my grandfather married the daughter of his first
cousin. His cousin was 15 years his senior and he was a few
years older than my grandmother. In any event, following the
above definitions -- second cousins are the children of first
cousins -- we can see what may appear to be a contradiction.
Because they are both daughters of first cousins, my mother is a
second cousin to her own mother. This makes me a third cousin to
my mother, as she and I are both children of second cousins in
the same ancestral lineage. And, of course, to myself I am a
third cousin, once removed (3C1R). Thus, when I use my genealogy
software to print out the descendants of Samuel CHACEY (our
common ancestor) I appear twice (and in different generations)--
once as a descendant of my grandfather and once in my
grandmother's line. What better proof that I am my own cousin.
Matings between cousins are called consanguineal, meaning that
the members of the pair have one or more common ancestors. In
some geographical areas at some times such matings can be quite
common. Whether we know it or not, each of us probably has some
consanguineous marriage in their pedigree. Most cultures have
rules that regulate the degree of relationship permitted between
two individuals who wish to marry.
In many societies, including our own, marriages between first
cousins, uncles and nieces, and aunts and nephews, are typically
discouraged or in some cases outlawed. Although it would mean
fewer grandparents to keep track of, such matings are probably
not a good thing. Individuals with rare recessive sex-linked
traits are often the offspring of such matings. On the other
hand, such consanguineous matings are not necessarily
undesirable. Charles DARWIN married his first cousin Emma
WEDGWOOD, and the entire Darwin-Wedgwood lineage was highly
inbred. Some have speculated that the pre-eminence of this
lineage in the arts, sciences, and the professions may have
resulted from some inbred genetic trait. But this is probably
the exception, and genetic diversity in families is probably
healthier over the long run.
SOURCE: Written by Duane F. Alwin, dfa@umich.edu.
Previously published by Julia M. Case and Myra
Vanderpool Gormley, CG, Missing Links, Vol. 5, No. 38,
20 September 2000. RootsWeb: http://www.rootsweb.com/
(Duane F. Alwin is Professor of Sociology at the University of
Michigan, where he teaches social psychology, the family and
research methods. In his spare time he actively pursues the
history of his own family.)
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Challenging Questions
Since publishing this particular page, I have received some
e-mail messages with challenging questions. I will share some
of these with you to further illustrate genealogy nominclature.
Question
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If my second-cousin once-removed marry's a man, and that man has a brother,
and the brother has children, how would I state my relationship to the
brother's children?
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Answer
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The brother's children are the nieces and nephews of the man who married
your second-cousin once removed. (There is no genetic relationship between
you and these children. These children are instead related to you because of
the marriage of their uncle to your second-cousin once-removed, and without that
marriage, they would have no relationship to you.)
-- Mark
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Question
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So, are these people who are related to me only because of a marriage
important in my genealogy study?
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Answer
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Of course, in-law and "by marriage" relationships are important in genealogy.
For example, with some exceptions that we won't describe here,
your mother and father were not genetically related
to each other.
But, the importance of their relationship "by marriage" is
illustrated by your existence! -- Mark
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Question
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I don't understand why the children of my first-cousin aren't my
second cousins.
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Answer
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The children of your first cousin are 3 generations later than your grandparents
(their great-grandparents), while you are only 2 generations later than your
grandparents. They are further "removed" from the common ancestors by 1 generation.
Therefore, they are your first-cousins once-removed. Now, if you have children,
and your first cousin has children, those children are second cousins to each other,
because they share the same great-grandparents as their first common ancestors.
-- Mark
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Question
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Does the woman who marries my uncle become my aunt?
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Answer
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No. She is literally your "aunt-in-law," just as she is the "sister-in-law"
of one of your parents. Now, these "aunt-in-laws" and "uncle-in-laws" are
usually affectionately called "aunt" and "uncle" in our culture, which is nice,
but for each pair of "aunt and uncle" that you have, one of them is genetically
related to you, and one of them is related by marriage. -- Mark
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Question
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How am I related to the spouse of my first-cousin once-removed?
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Answer
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The spouse of your first-cousin once-removed would be your
"first-cousin once-removed in-law," although that's not an
expression one hears very often. It would be more likely to hear that
"she is the wife of my first-cousin once-removed."
That person is not genetically related to you because your relationship is
based on he or she having married your first cousin once removed.
NOTICE THIS: You weren't related before that marriage. You don't have common ancestors. But, that person is in your
legal family now because of marrying your first cousin once-removed. -- Mark
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Say my Uncle Charles marries Elaine. Say Elaine has a sister, Judy.
Say Charles and Elaine have a child named, Fred. Say Judy has a child named, Esther.
How am I related to Fred? How am I related to Esther?
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Answer
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Fred, the child of your Uncle Charles, is your first cousin.
Fred is also first cousins to Esther, the child of Fred's aunt, Judy.
You are not genetically related to Esther, even though Fred is first-cousin
to both you and Esther. The reason is because Fred's first cousin relationship
to you is through is father's family, while Fred's first cousin relationship to Esther
is through his mother's family. You can refer to Esther as "the first cousin of my
first cousin." You could also accurately refer to Esther as "the niece of the woman
who married my Uncle." -- Mark
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Question
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Can you tell me what relation my grandmother's cousin's daughter is to me
(if any!)?
Many thanks, Peter
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Answer
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Dear Peter,
Your grandmother's cousin's daughter is your "2nd cousin once removed."
Your relationship with this woman is removed
because you are one generation further removed from your common ancestors than she is.
(Your great-grandparents are her
grandparents. Going back on the family tree, that couple (Your great-grandparents, who
are her grandparents) are the first ancestors that you and she share in common.) That
woman is the second cousin of one of your parents, because she and one of your parents are the children of first cousins. This
explains why the woman is both "2nd cousin" and "once removed" in relation to you. Combining these relationship descriptors,
it is accurate to say that this woman is your "2nd cousin once removed." -- Mark
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Question
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Dr. Hickman,
Given that so many people say it differently than you, why do you use terms like:
- granduncle
- grandaunt
- grandnephew
- grandniece
instead of:
- greatuncle
- greataunt
- greatnephew
- greatniece
???
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Answer
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Because the correct terms are actually easier and more logical once you get used to them.
All of your grand relatives in a given generation are named with the same number of "grand" and "greats."
For example, your grandmother's siblings are your granduncles and grandaunts. That's your "grand" generation in the past.
Similarly, your grandchildren are in the same generation as their second-cousins, who are also your grandnieces and grandnephews.
That's your "grand" generation in the future.
By the time you go to further generations on the family tree, it is a great relief that the system uses the same naming system
for everyone in that generation.
For example, your great-great-grandfather's siblings are your great-great-grandaunts and great-great-granduncles.
No calculations necessary! You know immediately to apply 2 "greats" and 1 "grand" to those people, since there are
2 "greats" and 1 "grand" in your relationship to their sibling who is your ancestor.
That's your "great-great-grand" generation.
See how much easier that is?
-- Mark
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Question
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I think you're wrong about "removed" and generations. My Uncle is in the same
generation as me because we're the same age.
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Answer
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Society's generations are not the same concept as genealogy generations.
In genealogy, generation does not refer to age of the individual or to the time
period born. In genealogy, generation refers to how many steps back on the family
tree you have to go to get to a given ancestor. So, your uncle is not in
the same generation as you, although you're the same age and you grew up together.
You're uncle is one generation earlier than you, because his parents (one step away
from him) are your grandparents (two steps away from you).
My mother had a first cousin
younger than me. He was in my age group, we played together, as friends I was closer
to him than my mother was, but genealogically he was in my mother's generation.
This example should explain -----------------
If my mother gave birth to a boy 25 years after I was born, we might be considered
in a different "social" generation, but genealogically, my brother is in my generation
no matter how far apart our ages, because we have exactly the same parents, the same
grandparents, and so on. -- Mark
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Question
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So, are you saying that only genetic and marriage relationships are important in
genealogy? Does that mean that step-relationships and non-married relationships
are not relevant?
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Answer
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Absolutely not! Who my ancestors loved is the most personal and important thing
that I can know about them as people. How could we search the Census to find our
ancestor's literacy status and occupation, and not care about something as important
as the relationships that he or she chose in life. -- Mark
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Question
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My cousin is being raised by my aunt, but it's a different aunt than the one who
truly gave birth to him. He doesn't realize that the woman he thinks is his aunt
actually is his mother, and vice versa.
How do I handle sensitive issues like that in my genealogy project? Shouldn't I
just go ahead and include the true facts?
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Answer
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Whoa .... slow down!
Different genealogists have different answers to this difficult question.
Most important, I believe that genealogy should never be cruel.
In a case like yours,
I would write the relationships just as your cousin, and everyone else, believes
them to be. The fact is, by accepting the family's definitions of themselves,
you will probably be writing down exactly what you would have found
if you had used your cousin's (now altered) birth certificate, school records, marriage
records, military records, church records, etc.
Besides, since you've already observed that your family is capable of telling more than
one story about a birth, the story you have been told may not be true, either.
Even within very honest families, distortions happen, for a variety of reasons.
In a separate, and very private file, I would keep records that clarify
the most accurate facts, and your sources, for future generations to consider
after the possibility of hurting a living person is no longer relative.
Be sure that your Will clarifies that the trusted heir who receives that file can
only pass it on to the next generation after a set number of years.
If the story were about a long-gone great-great-great-aunt, instead of about living
relatives, then I would put the actual facts right into the database.
Some other genealogists take a more stringent approach ... refusing to include
contemporary people in their databases, or including only names without any identifying
dates or data. (Anyone can find just about anything he or she wants, about anyone,
via the Internet, anyway. But, I have recently been removing birthdates of living people from my Web site
to prevent relatives from having their identities stolen.)
Now if you tell me that this will add an inaccuracy to your research, I would remind
you that you have no way of prooving fatherhood for the vast majority of the people
in your family tree. We'll never know which of our ancestors let their husbands
proudly believe that they were the father of a baby that actually resulted from a
one-time indiscretion. Like all sciences, genealogical research is based on
probability. We are always "more or less" certain of our facts, because we can't
go back in a time machine to be sure that a record wasn't wrong. Anyone doing genealogy
for very long finds that their ancestors used whatever names they wanted to call
themselves at any given time, and some of our ancestors gave different birth dates
in family Bibles versus marriage licenses versus what they told the Census workers.
One of my great-grandmothers was a Church of the Brethren Minister, but she didn't
get married until shortly after the birth of her second child. Now, we could jump to
conclusions about her wild behavior, or we could look in the context of history and
realize that pioneers like her entered wilderness areas before the circuit preachers
did, and in that culture, you were married if you said you were married. When a
circuit preacher was available in the area, she got legally married. And she stayed with my
great-grandfather until his death. Similarly, there are often contextual factors in
our current sensitive family situations that cause people to make the decisions that
they make.
And don't forget that the most important mother relationship your cousin has is with
the woman he has known as mother, and the woman whom society has recognized as his mother.
This is no different than if your cousin had been adopted from outside of the family.
His legal and nurturing mother is precisely who he believes it to be. If genetics are different
from legality in this case, you are not the person who has the most right to decide
that needs to be sorted.
As Ann Landers and Dear Abby would say, M.Y.O.B.
My main point is, you have no right to destroy families under the guise of honoring
them.
And, if you should ever be so insensitive as to cause such pain to your relatives,
no relatives will tell you anymore stories, anyway.
-- Mark
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Question
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What does the phrase "twice removed" mean? I know what it means with
relatives, but just in general, what does it mean.
Would it be correct to say, "the woman was twice removed from beauty"?
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Answer
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Dear John,
I personally haven't heard the phrase used anywhere but within genealogy.
I suppose the phrase could be used to clarify steps from a fixed point
on any ordinal scale.
But, I really can't imagine any situation in which it would be appropriate
to call another person "twice removed from beauty," ----------- unless, of course, you
were referring to a sender of mass e-mail advertisements. -- Mark
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Question
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I enjoyed you website. My sister, who is a math teacher, claims that
actually there should be no such thing as a true third cousin,
and that cousin relationships should jump from first to second to
fourth and then to eighth, etc.
I say that what she is doing is figuring bloodlines,
similar to the way native american indians calculate
how much of full indian blood
a person is - 1/2 indian, 1/4 indian, 1/8 indian, etc.
The terms "cousin" and "bloodline" really don't have
anything to do with each other.
My sister says that she used to figure relationships for a lawyer
to determine who got what share of an inheritance, and this was how
she was told to do it. That was the legal method.
I think the lawyer was wrong, and that some people may have missed
out on their fair shares of inheritances.
Which of us is right?
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Answer
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Dear Mike,
Do you suppose the lawyer got the missing percentages in those inheritances?
While it is true that I am approximately half as related to my grandparent
as my parent is (I say "approximately" because I don't know whether my mother
passed on more of my grandfather's genes to me, or more of my grandmother's genes),
didn't your sister have trouble getting the people's fractions to add up to 100% ?
In the formula your sister used, if the deceased left 3 children, that would be
3 halves. Did the lawyer donate the extra money needed in that formula?
Or, if someone died and left one child, one grandchild and one great-grandchild,
the 1/2, 1/4 and 1/8 in your sister's formula only adds up to 7/8's. Who got
the other 1/8 of the estate?
But, I digress. You are correct that calculating cousin relationships is a
different formula than calculating bloodline percentages. That means that you
do, indeed, have third cousins. -- Mark
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Question
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What's the difference between "5th cousins" and
"first cousins removed 5 times?"
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Answer
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About 200 years.
5th cousins are in the same generation with each other. They
share two of the same great-great-great-great-grandparents.
On the other hand, "first cousins removed 5 times," refers to one person being
the first cousin of the other person's great-great-great-grandparent, so they
are in different generations of the family. -- Mark
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Question
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My wife is Korean and their way of naming
their relation is way different than ours. My question is if her
grandfather has a 1st cousin what would we call that cousin? She calls him
her grandfather as well. Thanks
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Answer
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I do not know Korean relationship terminology. I will defer to your
wife's expertise on that. In the United States, her grandfather's first
cousin would be her "first cousin twice removed."
-- Mark
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Question
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What is my relationship to my husband's brother's wife's sister?
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Answer
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Your husband's brother's wife's sister is just that -- your husband's brother's wife's sister.
You could also say that she is the sister-in-law of your brother-in-law. -- Mark
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Question
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Who has exactly the same ancestry as me?
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Answer
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Your full brothers and sisters have exactly the same set of ancestors
as you have.
The only other time that would occur would be in the case of
double-first cousins. When 2 siblings marry 2 siblings, their
children are double first cousins, and have exactly the same
set of ancestors. -- Mark
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So, are double-first cousins genetically the same as brothers and sisters?
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Answer
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Not unless their parents were two sets of identical twins. -- Mark
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My great grandmother's brother married my great grandfather's sister.
Both of these couples had one son, those sons being double-first cousins.
What relationship do I have with my grandfather's double first cousin?
Am I double-first cousin twice removed ?
By the same token, am I double third cousins to this man's grandchildren?
It would seem that we're more than simply cousins because I am cousin to them all through both of my great grandparents, not just one.
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Answer
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You are correct.
You and this man's grandchildren are double third cousins because 4 of your 16 great-great-grandparents are shared with them,
while regular third cousins share 2 of their 16 great-great-grandparents.
-- Mark
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Dear Dr Hickman
I came across your site explaining the entire "cousin x times removed"
conundrum, and it has answered many questions that have been nagging me for
years (as a trivia buff!). I just wish to congratulate you on a clear,
concise and fascinating website, that I have just recommended to all my
friends.
...
One query though (on a purely theoretical level) arising from your FAQ
answer to the "double first cousin" phenomenon. Would I be correct in saying
that if a pair of identical twins each married a pair of identical twins,
that each child from either marriage are genetically identical, and has a 1
in 4 chance of being physically identical to any one of his cousins? Or is
there a gentic factor that I don't understand?
-- James
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Answer
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Dear James,
Thank you for your kind words.
The children of two couples, comprised of the marriage of two sets of identical
twins, would be genetically the same as siblings. These cousins would be as related
as brothers and sisters are.
The reason the cousins are not identical, or even identical 1/4 of the time, is
because any given parents can contribute many different combinations of genes and
chromosomes to a baby. So, just as the odds are extremely against non-twin siblings
being identical, the same is true for the various children of 2 sets of identical twins.
Another way to think about this concept: You have known couples
with five children, each of them different from the others, even though
all five children had exactly the same set of parents.
If each of these parents had an identical twin that married each
other, the same variety would show up in the total group of children
from both couples. -- Mark
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My parents were third cousins to each other.
Does this mean I am "extra related" to my brother and sister?
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Answer
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Yes, your brother and sister are also your 4th cousins in your father's
family, and your 4th cousins in your mother's family.
In fact, you are technically a 4th cousin to yourself through your father's line,
as well as 4th cousin to yourself through your mother's line.
(Go ponder that tidbit for a while!)
And, each of your parents are also your "third-cousin once-removed."
fascinating, isn't it?
Now, think about this ... You have two families to consider when you think of your parents.
Four families are involved with your grandparents. Going back just five generations
gives you 32 families to research. Keep multiplying ... go back 20 generations and
you'll be studying your 1,048,576 family surnames in your spare time.
Given that
there didn't used to be all that many people on the planet, you're probably
related to almost
everyone you've ever met, and you probably have more multiple relationships than
you will ever discover.
But, don't panic. Worries about inherited diseases and lethal genetic conditions
usually apply to much closer relationships,
such as marriages between first cousins. -- Mark
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Question
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Up to the late 19th century, U.S. maternal mortality rates were very high.
It's not uncommon to see fathers taking second and even third wives after losing an
earlier wife in (or very shortly after) childbirth. I have also noticed that the 2nd and 3rd wives
would often be taken from the same family (a sister or a niece) as the first.
In my own family tree, I have a great-great-grandfather with several considerably older half-siblings --
but his mother was the niece of the mother of the first set of my g-g-g-grandfather's children.
So, might the elder half-siblings better be referred to
as '3/4' siblings of my great-great-grandfather?
More generally, is there any standard way of distinguishing between 'simple' half- siblings
(where the 'uncommon' parents are unrelated) versus more complicated relationships like those of
my great-great-grandfather and his older part-siblings?
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No, I am not aware of a term that inherently explains the
extra-relatedness of people related in multiple ways, unless the two
relationships are the same kind of relationship (e.g. "double first cousins"
describing the relationship of the children of two unions wherein siblings
married siblings).
Instead, I would mention both relationships when describing the
relationship of two people.
For example, your great-great-great-grandfather's second wife was both
step-mother and first-cousin to the children of your
great-great-great-grandfather's first marriage.
Your great-great-grandfather's older siblings were both his
half-siblings (through their common father's line) and his
first-cousins once-removed (through the relationship of their respective
mothers' lines).
-- Mark
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I am going to a family reunion and am making a family album and was going to make a family tree for the cover.
In doing this I realized that my Great Grand Father married his second cousin.
I have gone through your website to determine that they were in fact second cousins but I would love
if you could confirm that I am my Mothers 4th cousin once removed?
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You are correct. Actually, your mother is your "DOUBLE 4th cousin once
removed" in addition to being related to you as your mother. That is
because she is your "4th cousin once removed" through your
great-grandfather's line because she is the granddaughter of his second
cousin, as well as being your "4th cousin once removed" through your
great-grandmother's line because she is the granddaughter of her first
cousin.
This also means that you are a "double 5th cousin" to yourself, because
you are the great-granddaughter of your great-grandfather's second cousin,
as well as being a great-granddaughter of your great-grandmother's second
cousin.
-- Mark
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Are my parents my ancestors?
Are my aunts and uncles my ancestors?
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Your parents are, in fact, your closest ancestors.
Your aunts and uncles are not technically your ancestors, because
you didn't descend directly from them.
Instead, your aunts and uncles are close relatives.
They are in your family tree.
But, they are
collaterally related to you through your parent, instead of ancestrally related.
And, they are part of your ancestral family, as siblings of your parent.
But, it's a collateral, instead of an ancestral, relationship.
-- Mark
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Am I more closely related to my aunts and uncles, or to my first cousins?
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You are more closely related to your aunts and uncles.
This is because you have to go through your aunts and uncles to trace
your relationship to your first cousins, and then when you get to your
first cousins, they have some additional ancestry that you don't share,
through their other parent.
First cousins are close relatives, but your aunts and uncle are even
more closely related to you.
-- Mark
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I have a half-sister (my mother
remarried) and a "step"-sister (my dad remarried someone that brought a
child into the marriage). Do you have similar nomenclature tables for
naming conventions when you only share one parent in common?
Bryan
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Dear Bryan,
To answer your question, the good news is that the same modifiers are used with
all kinds of relationships, although it takes a bit of thinking sometimes to figure out
which ones to use.
Your father married a woman who already had a daughter. If your father adopted
that daughter, then she is your step sister. She is no relation to your mother, except
as "the step-daughter of my former husband." To your father's brothers and sisters,
your father's step-daughter would be their step-niece, while your father's brothers and
sisters would be her step-uncles and step-aunts. Now ... many families will choose to
drop the "step" in common usage, out of affection for the step relatives, simply saying,
"Aunt Jewel and Uncle Carl."
Your half-sister is the full niece of your mother's brothers and sisters, because they
are just as related to her as they are to you -- through their sister, who is the mother
of both of you. Similarly, your mother's brothers and sisters are simply uncles and aunts
to your half sister, just as they are to you.
Regarding your mother's family, you and your half-sister have exactly the same
relationships to everyone. But, since you have different fathers, the half of your relatives
that come through your father are totally different than the half of her relatives that come
through her father.
Your mother's parents are equally grandparents to your half sister and you, while you
have a different set of paternal grandparents than your half-sister has.
You share no ancestry with your step-sister, but you have legal relatives in common
with your step-sister.
-- Mark
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Mark,
I was looking through your web page and was wondering if you could be
kind enough to email me a basic family tree. For example my nephew by
marriage is married. Is she my niece by marriage and their children my
great nieces or nephews? Please either send me a breakwon sheet or let me
know where I can find one.
Thank you very much,
Cheryl
P.S. I am sorry to bother you -- can't seem to find the information
anywhere.
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Dear Cheryl,
The wife of your nephew-by-marriage is "the wife of your nephew-by
marriage." In other words, you worded the answer correctly in your
question. It would also be correct for you to refer to her as
"the wife of my nephew in-law."
The children of your nephew are your grand-nephews and grand-nieces.
The children of your nephew-by-marriage are your grand-nephews-by marriage
(or, grand-nephews in-law) and grand-nieces-by marriage (or, grand-nieces
in-law).
The children of your grand-nephews and grand-nieces will be your
great-grand-nephews and great-grand-nieces.
The children of your grand-nephews-by-marriage
and grand-nieces-by-marriage will be your
great-grand-nephews-by-marriage and great-grand-nieces-by-marriage.
Okay, Cheryl, I have tried to combine the concepts of niece-nephew,
cousin, and direct ancestry in the chart below.
Mary
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sisters
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Sue
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Jennifer
- daughter of
Mary
- niece of Sue
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Jennifer & Cindy
are first cousins
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Cindy
- daughter of Sue
- niece of Mary
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Tami
- daughter of Jennifer,
- granddaughter of Mary,
- grand-niece of Sue
- first-cousin once-removed of Cindy
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Tami and Cheryl are
second cousins
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Cheryl
- daughter of
Cindy,
- granddaughter of Sue,
- grand-niece of Mary
- first-cousin once-removed of Jennifer
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Beth
- daughter of Tami,
- granddaughter of Jennifer,
- great-granddaughter of Mary,
- great-grand-niece of Sue
- second-cousin once-removed of Cheryl
- first-cousin twice-removed of Cindy
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Beth and Dana are
third cousins
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Dana
- daughter of Cheryl,
- granddaughter of
Cindy,
- great-granddaughter of Sue,
- great-grand-niece of Mary
- second-cousin once-removed of Tami
- first-cousin twice-removed of Jennifer
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-- Mark
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Question # 1
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First of all your site was very helpful, but I have a few questions
I hope you can answer for me. My great-grandfather and Mary's
great-grandfather were brothers.
Does that mean that we are 3rd cousins and what are the genetic
implications if we were to have kids???
A man
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Answer # 1
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Dear Man,
Thanks for visiting my Web site, and thank you for your e-mail message.
You and Mary's first common ancestors were your great-great-grandparents,
so that you are, indeed, third cousins.
I am not a geneticist, but we can calculate that you and Mary have 2
of the same great-great-grandparents out of the 16
great-great-grandparents that you each have.
That means that 1/8 of your ancestry is identical.
That does not necessarily mean
that you share 1/8 of your genes -- it could be more or it could be less,
because there are so many possible genetic
combinations when a child is conceived.
The concern most often expressed about two relatives conceiving
children is that some problematic conditions and traits are
hidden for many generations on recessive genes,
and don't show up in the individual as long as they are paired with a
more-beneficial dominant gene from an unrelated other parent.
When two relatives conceive a child, there is some increased
chance of any hidden negative genes showing up as features of the child.
Obviously, that concern is greater when the relationship is closer.
It's a bigger concern between brother and sister than with
a first cousin. It's a bigger concern with first cousins than with
second cousins. And so on.
In some families, there is a known hereditary illness or
condition that would make people be very careful.
On the other hand, most people you've met are probably related
to you to some small degree, and European Royalty has
married distant cousins throughout history. Of course, European
Royalty also has a higher incidence of certain hereditary
conditions than other families, such as deafness.
This is a brief overview of the issue.
As I said, I'm not a geneticist, so I can't give an expert opinion
on the risks to your children. We know that the risk is not zero.
On the other hand, third cousins are more different than they are alike.
You should consult with an expert on genetics, or a physician
who deals with genetic disorders, to find out more about
whether the risk to your children is statistically great enough to
effect your future decisions. The answer to that question may
also depend upon whether or not there are hereditary conditions of
concern in your family tree.
Incidentally, if you should have two children with Mary
those children would be related both as siblings and as fourth
cousins to each other. Also, your children would be related to
you both as parent-child and as your "third cousins once
removed."
Thank you for presenting this challenging question.
If you don't mind, I'd like to post your thoughtful question on my Web
site. I would change the names, of course, to protect your privacy.
Please let me know.
Sincerely,
-- Mark
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Question # 2
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Thank you for the reply. Question, and I want your personal
opinion...... what do you feel morally and ethnically about 3rd cousins
being together???????????? Feel free to post, but PLEASE change the
names.
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Answer # 2
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Dear Man,
Well, your question definitely goes beyond a genealogical focus,
and I can't predict your future, but I'll try to
share some thoughts on your sincere question.
I'm afraid that there is not one simple answer to your question.
Instead, there are a variety of issues that you will need to consider
in deciding what is the ethically correct answer for you.
If you are someone for whom the beliefs of one of the World's religions
is important (for example, Christianity, Judaism, Islam,
Hinduism, Buddhism, etc.), your religion might have certain beliefs
that relate to your question.
However, as I mentioned, if your family has been in one area for a few
generations, you probably have some degree of relationship to most
people that you encounter, whether you know it or not.
Across human history, including early American history,
populations of human settlements were often small enough that marriages
between cousins were not uncommon at all.
That is why genealogists often find the same individual as their
ancestor when they go back on two different family lines.
In your case, you know about your relationship with Mary, so it would
certainly be ethically appropriate to take advantage of today's
genetic knowledge to learn whether there is significant risk of
genetic disease or undesirable hereditary conditions for children
produced with your third cousin. And, again, that may depend on whether
there are such genetic conditions known to occur in your family background.
If you should learn that this is a significant risk factor, then you will
have multiple choices. You may determine not to marry your third cousin
after all. Or, you may decide to marry her because of your love for her,
but to not biologically reproduce. Or, you may decide that you are able
to provide the special care and love for a child with special needs (and,
you could produce a child with special needs even if your partner
were not your relative), and go ahead and follow your heart
and see what your future holds.
I congratulate you on being someone who is so thoughtful about
important life decisions. I wish for you a very happy future!
-- Mark
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If i were to marry my second cousin once
removed; will that affect our future child? Do you know if it is approved
by the Catholic laws? Is our gene still concedered related? And are such
marriages allowed?
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I can only answer the genealogy part of your question. Your second
cousin once removed is indeed a relative.
Your questions are good ones, but your other questions are religious,
legal and medical, so it wouldn't be appropriate for me to give an opinion.
You will get your best answers from experts in those fields.
As for whether such a marriage is allowed under Catholic law, your
priest can probably answer that question.
As for whether such a marriage is allowed where you live, the laws vary
in different states and locations. An attorney, a clerk who issues marriage
licenses, or a priest who conducts marriages in your location may be able to
answer your question. Or, you can probably find your location's marriage
laws on the Internet or in your local library.
As for whether such a marriage would effect a child, that is a medical
question, and depends on lots of factors, such as whether or not there are
hereditary medical conditions in your family. Your physician may be able to
help you with that question.
-- Mark
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Hi there.
I am on a quest to find a chart or explanation of degrees of affinity and
degrees of consanguinity. Can you explain to me the difference between the
two, including listing what degree of affinity a first or second cousin,
aunt, great grandchild would be. I've searched everywhere, including
Black's law dictionary. Help!
Thanks!
Ginger
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Dear Ginger,
The problem with providing an exact answer to your question is that
degree of affinity and degree of consanguinity are
legal concepts, instead of genealogical concepts.
Accordingly, the definitions may vary from one location to another.
However, degrees of affinity are based on marital relationship
while degrees of consanguinity are based
on blood (genetic) or adopted relationship.
An example, from the Texas Code, is provided below. -- Mark
§ 573.022. Determination of Consanguinity
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(a) Two individuals are related to each other by consanguinity if:
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(1) one is a descendant of the other; or
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(2) they share a common ancestor.
(b) An adopted child is considered to be a child of the adoptive parent for this purpose.
Added by Acts 1993, 73rd Leg., ch. 268, § 1, eff. Sept. 1, 1993.
§ 573.023. Computation of Degree of Consanguinity
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(a) The degree of relationship by consanguinity between an individual and the individual's descendant is determined by the
number of generations that separate them. A parent and child are related in the first degree, a grandparent and grandchild in the
second degree, a great-grandparent and great-grandchild in the third degree and so on.
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(b) If an individual and the individual's relative are related by consanguinity, but neither is descended from the other, the degree
of relationship is determined by adding:
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(1) the number of generations between the individual and the nearest common ancestor of the individual and the
individual's relative; and
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(2) the number of generations between the relative and the nearest common ancestor.
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(c) An individual's relatives within the third degree by consanguinity are the individual's:
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(1) parent or child (relatives in the first degree);
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(2) brother, sister, grandparent, or grandchild (relatives in the second degree); and
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(3) great-grandparent, great-grandchild, aunt who is a sister of a parent of the individual, uncle who is a brother of
a parent of the individual, nephew who is a child of a brother or sister of the individual, or niece who is a child of a
brother or sister of the individual (relatives in the third degree).
Added by Acts 1993, 73rd Leg., ch. 268, § 1, eff. Sept. 1, 1993.
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§ 573.024. Determination of Affinity
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(a) Two individuals are related to each other by affinity if:
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(1) they are married to each other; or
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(2) the spouse of one of the individuals is related by consanguinity to the other individual.
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(b) The ending of a marriage by divorce or the death of a spouse ends relationships by affinity created by that marriage unless
a child of that marriage is living, in which case the marriage is considered to continue as long as a child of that marriage lives.
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(c) Subsection (b) applies to a member of the board of trustees of or an officer of a school district only until the youngest child
of the marriage reaches the age of 21 years.
Added by Acts 1993, 73rd Leg., ch. 268, § 1, eff. Sept. 1, 1993.
Amended by Acts 1995, 74th Leg., ch. 260, § 32, eff. May 30, 1995.
§ 573.025. Computation of Degree of Affinity
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(a) A husband and wife are related to each other in the first degree by affinity. For other relationships by affinity, the degree of
relationship is the same as the degree of the underlying relationship by consanguinity. For example: if two individuals are related to
each other in the second degree by consanguinity, the spouse of one of the individuals is related to the other individual in the second
degree by affinity.
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(b) An individual's relatives within the third degree by affinity are:
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(1) anyone related by consanguinity to the individual's spouse in one of the ways named in Section 573.023(c);
and
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(2) the spouse of anyone related to the individual by consanguinity in one of the ways named in Section
573.023(c).
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I think some genealogists gauge relatedness by degree, counting
connecting relatives to the person in question. Thus your mother is
your relative to the first degree as are your children; your mother's
brother would be related to the third degree because you count one up
for your mother and another up for her parents and then one down for her
brother. Your grandparents are related in the second degree as are your
grandchildren. Your second cousin once removed is related either to the
fifth or to the seventh degree, depending on whether he is toward your
common ancestor pair or in the other direction. Is there any use or
significance to this in biology or genealogy, that is to measuring
relatedness in degrees?
Donald
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Dear Donald,
See my answer to the previous question, which explains that Degrees
of Relationship is a legal, rather than a genealogical, concept.
Because of that, definitions of Degrees of Relationship may vary
from place to place.
-- Mark
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Question # 1
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Is a grand nephew of a half brother closer in blood than a second cousin once removed?
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Answer # 1
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I appreciate your challenging question.
If your half-brother's grandnephew is not also your grandnephew,
then I presume that grandnephew is from your half-brother's other
family, and therefore is not biologically related to you at all.
Your second cousin once removed is a biological relative.
On the other hand, if your half-brother's grandnephew IS related to
you biologically, then that grandnephew is either also your grandnephew
(if he descends from another one of your siblings), or he could be your
own grandson (your grandson would be a grandnephew of your sibling). If
so, he would be more closely related to you than a second cousin once
removed.
-- Mark
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Question # 2
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Here's an even more challenging question. Are you considered an expert
in genealogy? The question I previously posed to you is for a probate
litigation matter and we would like to use your affidavit in that matter
if possible. We have a case where a person is claiming that he is a
grand nephew of a half brother of a decedent and we represent the second
cousin once removed (which he can prove). If you cannot or won't
provide an affidavit, can you recommend a genealogy expert?
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Answer # 2
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Shame on your for pretending to have a genealogy question in order to screen my answer to see if it would help your legal case!
And, shame on you as an attorney for not knowing that probate decisions are based on the state or locality's probate laws,
rather than on genealogical relationships.
-- Mark
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Hi,
I'm looking for some answers here and would like your help.
Years back I was married to a man named Ted (names have been changed), who has a sister, Karen, by the same mother, but with
different fathers. So, that makes them half-brother and half-sister. Is that correct?
Ted and I had two boys together. Karen had two girls, with two different fathers.
I have been in a relationship with Bill, one of Karen's ex-boyfriends, which happens to be the father of one of her girls.
If I were to marry this man, what would the relationship be between the children?
Karen claims that our relationship is wrong and bad for the kids. I don't understand her point.
She won't let him see the girls, and he is trying to fight this in court. Does she have a case with this legally?
What's your opinion, and how is everyone related here? Thanks.
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You question about whether or not Karen has a case is a legal question, not a genealogy question.
I'm not an attorney, so I can't give legal opinion.
Your children with Ted are "half first cousins" to Karen's children, same as they have always been. If you marry Bill, then your
children could be considered step-brothers to one of Karen's daughters, as well as being her half first cousins.
Bill's daughter can now be considered "the half niece of your former husband." If you marry Bill, that
daughter could also be your step-daughter.
But ..................... since we aren't talking about any new primary relationships between two people who are blood relatives,
I am guessing that Karen's concern is not about multiple genealogical relationships. Instead, I suspect the question is
related to all of the various relationships & former relationships, and how your marriage to Bill might complicate a tangle of
relationships that is already tense.
That is probably an important question to all concerned, but it is not a genealogy question.
Now, if you and Bill should have a child, that child would be the only person related to absolutely everyone mentioned above.
That's the only genealogical point in these questions about relationships. Everything else in your situation seems to be more of a
legal and contact/no contact nature.
-- Mark
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Question # 1
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My grandmother, through my mother's side, has a brother.
Well that brother is my uncle I guess, and that uncle had a boy,
and that boy is my husband. What degree of cousins are we?
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Answer # 1
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Your grandmother's brother is your granduncle (and he is uncle to your mother). The son of your
granduncle is first-cousin to your mother, which means that your husband is your "first cousin once
removed."
-- Mark
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Question # 2
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Thank you Mark for replying so quickly!
So does that mean he (my husband) is my second cousin?
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Answer # 2
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No. Your husband is your "first cousin once removed." It is a removed relationship because in relationship to your first
common ancestors (the parents of your grandmother), you are their great-granddaughter, while your husband is their grandson.
You are one generation later in the family tree than your husband, so the "removed" phrase is used.
If your husband had a son, that son would be your "second cousin," because that son and you would both be 3 generations later
than your first common ancestors going back, which were your great-grandparents.
Now, this is where it gets fascinating -- and complicated.
If you and your husband have a child, that child will be both (1) your
child, and (2) your second cousin.
That child will be related to your husband as both (1) his child, and (2) his "first cousin twice
removed."
In relationship to your great-grandparents, that child will be both their (1) great-grandson (through your husband's line),
and (2) their great-great-grandson (through your line).
In reference to your grandmother, that child will be both (1) her
great-grandchild, and (2) her grand-niece or grand-nephew.
In reference to your mother, your child would be both (1) her
grandchild, and (2) her "first cousin once removed."
-- Mark
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Question # 3
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Okay! I think I get it now!
Just to make sure, he is less or "further" related to me than a second cousin.
Right?
Sorry! This is like so foreign to me. Thank you so much Mark! Take care
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No. Your husband, as your first-cousin once-removed, is MORE related to you than would be his
offspring (your second cousins). That's because if you were tracing your relationship to your second
cousin, you would have to go through him. Your second cousins are related to you because they are
the children of your "first cousins once removed."
If you are trying to figure out if your genetic relationship to your husband is a close one, the answer
is yes. He's not as related as a first cousin, but he's more related than a second cousin.
Now, marriages between cousins were not uncommon in earlier times when communities were
smaller and separated by greater distances.
Your marriage is probably legal in most places, although laws governing cousin marriages vary from
State to State in this country. Some places do prohibit marriages between first cousins, and some
places do not. Your relationship to your husband is a little more distant than a
first cousin relationship, since you are "first cousins once removed."
The most important point for you to consider is whether or not you might be at any significant risk
of producing children with inherited problems that usually don't show up because they are associated
with recessive genes. Looking at medical conditions in your shared family background, as well as
consulting with a geneticist or your physician, are ways to approach that question.
-- Mark
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My mother recently informed me that her mother and my father's mother
were first cousins. Are my parents second cousins or first cousins once
removed and how close is that, as far as genetics are concerned? Great
website by the way.
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Answer
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Your parents would be second cousins to each other.
That means that 2 of your mother's 8 great-grandparents were also
2 of your father's great-grandparents. Put another way, 1/4 of your
mother's ancestors were the same as 1/4 of your father's ancestors.
That does not mean that they share 1/4 of their genes. In fact, it
would probably be much less than that since brothers and sister have 100% the
same ancestors, but are still genetically different from each other, unless
they are identical twins.
This also means that you have 14 different people as your
great-great-grandparents, instead of the
customary 16 -- but 2 of those are your double-great-great-grandparents.
Interestingly, your mother is also your "second cousin once removed"
through your father's line,
and your father is your "second cousin once removed" through your
mother's line, as well as being your father.
You are, in fact, "double third cousin" to yourself. That is because
you are third cousin to the children of your mother's second cousin (who happens to
be your father), and you are third cousin to the children of your father's
second cousin (who happens to be your mother).
If you have a child, that child is both (1) your child and (2) your
"double third cousin once removed."
Your father is both (1) grandfather and (2) "second cousin twice
removed" to your child, and your mother is both (1) grandmother and (2) "second
cousin twice removed" to your child.
Complex, but fascinating!
Thanks for writing!
-- Mark
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My father's mother remarried when my father was quite young. She
had another son and daughter making my father
their half-sibling. I want to know exactly what the relationship is between
myself and my half-uncle's children. Could you tell me? The reason I
am asking is that I am marrying one of my half-uncle's children and I
don't know how to respond to people's questions when they ask what the
relationship is.
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Your half uncle's children are your "half first cousins."
One of your four grandparents is also one of the four grandparents
of your half first cousins, so you share 25% of your ancestry with them,
while full first cousins share 50% of the same ancestors,
and full siblings share 100% of the same ancestors.
If you have children by this marriage, your children will
also be your "half first cousins once removed."
They will also be "half first cousins once removed" to your spouse.
Your children will be both siblings to each other, as well as
being each other's "half second cousin."
Your children will be your father's grandchildren, as well as
being his "half grand nephews" and "half grand nieces."
Your paternal grandmother will be great-grandmother to your
children twice. In other words, most people have eight great-grandparents.
Your children will have only seven great-grandparents,
because your grandmother will fill that slot twice for your children.
-- Mark
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I understand the "removed" idea for going up in the family tree (ancestors),
but it does not seem consistent going down. For example, my grandmother's
second cousin is simply my second cousin, twice removed (two generations).
My father's first cousin is my first cousin, once-removed.
Going down on the family tree, why isn't my son's second cousin my second
cousin, once-removed (one generation)? It is my understanding that that
person would be my first cousin, once-removed?? Technically, it would seem
that my first cousin, once-removed, going down the family tree, would be my
son's first cousin, or my nephew!!
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Answer
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Remember that regardless of whether one is going "up" or "down"
the family tree, the concept of "removed" is about how many generations
each of the compared relatives is from the first common ancestors
(which always requires looking back in time).
Your son and his second cousin have their great-grandparents
as their first common ancestors. You are a generation closer to their
great-grandparents than they are, because those same ancestors are
your grandparents.
Your son's second cousin is related to you because he/she is the child of
your first cousin, but is removed from your grandparents one more
generation than you are.
The reason that your nephew, who is your son's first cousin,
is not your first cousin once removed is because that would be calculating
the closeness of relationship through each of your relationships to your son,
instead of through your common ancestors.
It may also help to realize that your nephew is a closer
relative to you than is your first cousin once removed. Your nephew is
the child of your sibling, while your first cousin once removed is the
child of your cousin.
Excellent question, though.
-- Mark
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Mark,
Thank you for an informative website.
I have had a couple of discussions with fellow
language and grammar buffs in the past about the
definition and use of "second cousin".
Your site and others I have found make it clear
that the official system in genealogy defines
"second cousin" as sharing great-grandparents.
Yet many people still use the term to refer to
a first cousin's children. I suspect this
is a vulgar usage that took hold despite being
wrong (the student didn't know which book was
theirs).
One dictionary definition I saw a while back
(a printed dictionary, mind you, not a web-based
offering!) allowed that "second cousin" can mean
either the child of a parent's first cousin or a
first cousin's child. I have seen this allowance
elsewhere. Does this reflect the official/vulgar
split that dictionaries have learned to acknowledge?
Or are there actually two systems out there,
one of which is accepted by the educated genealogy
community?
In short, what is the history of the official
terminology? Did the current definition win out over
a competitor in the past, though the competitor
remains in our popular usage? Or did the currently
"incorrect" but decidedly popular definition arise as a
misuse of a previously accepted but easy-to-confuse system?
The question of whether the dictionary writers
lead the masses or the other way around comes to mind.
I would appreciate your help with this somewhat historical
question.
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Thank you for visiting my Web site, and thank you for your
challenging and thought-provoking questions.
I am not a linquist, so I don't claim to know the origins
of contemporary genealogical nomenclature.
I suspect that your hypotheses are correct. Dictionaries evolve
as language evolves, with the purpose of defining words in use rather
than as a rule book for words to use.
A compelling reason for genealogical researchers to consistently
use the nomenclature accepted by other genealogical researchers is to
ensure that we are accurately communicating information.
On the other hand, the careful genealogist must maintain
awareness that language, and therefore records, may be less precise or
less consistent in defining relationships.
For example, when reading a letter addressed to "my dear brother,"
we must be aware of the fact that the term brother usually implies
(1) male sibling, but also could imply (2) writing to a monk, (3)
writing to a fellow church member, (4) writing to a fellow member of black culture,
(5) writing to someone with cultural roots in the 1960's, or (6) writing to a
friend who is "just like a brother to me."
Genealogy would be an easier task if language was consistent across
time and across locations. Since language is not always consistent,
the genealogist must seek as much evidence as possible to support conclusions.
Similarly, when someone refers to a person as his/her second cousin,
I don't automatically presume that the two people share great-grandparents
since so many people use "second cousin" to refer to the children of one's
first cousin.
Now, I think that usage is illogical, because if we count
every step that way then two people with the same great-grandparents
would be called third cousins (i.e., if the child of your first cousin
is your second cousin, then your own child would have to be the third cousin
of the child of your first cousin -- and no one seems to take the misuse to
that extent.)
So, I continue to hold that second cousins are people who share
the same great-grandparents as their first common ancestors.
-- Mark
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I am trying to come up with a descriptive term for a couple
and their children that we see at church and sporting events all the time.
When I try to describe the relationship to people it always sounds so confusing.
Let's see if I can describe it to you. My husband's sister, Beulah,
is married to David.
David's brother Ted is the first one I am trying to assign a term.
Is he my brother-in-law by marriage? Or is he called something else.
Ted and his wife Jan have two children.
Are their children called anything to my children.
We have just given up to having my children call them Aunt Jan and
Uncle Ted even though we know that they are not really related.
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You are, of course, correct that relatives of your in-law
are not genetically related to you.
Unfortunately (if you were looking for short summaries),
long descriptions like you used are the most accurate descriptions.
Ted is the "brother of your husband's brother-in-law." In fact, David isn't your
brother-in-law, either. He is "your husband's brother-in-law."
However, Beulah is your sister-in-law, while she is your husband's sister.
Ted's children are "nieces-in-law and nephews-in-law of your husband's sister,"
or "nieces and nephews of your husband's brother-in-law." They are also
"first cousins of the first cousins of your children," or
"nieces and nephews of your children's uncle-in-law David," or
"nieces-in-law and nephews-in-law of your children's aunt Beulah."
David and Beulah's children are first cousins to both your children and
to Ted and Jan's children, but their first cousin relationship to
your children is through your husband's relationship to Beulah, while
their first cousin relationship to the other children is through Ted's
relationship to David.
Given those long cumbersome descriptors, I don't blame you for
yielding to your children's tendency to define their relatives'
relatives as their own relatives. I'm sure that Jan and Ted feel
honored to be "Aunt Jan and Uncle Ted."
-- Mark
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Hi Mark, (you have a great website!)
I just found out that my 9th cousin,
8 times removed is George Washington. Whether or not I believe this,
I had no idea what it meant. I think I got half of it figured out.
(Tell me if I'm wrong.) So far I think that he and I share the same
great great great great great great great great grandparents...am I right?!
Now I'm totally lost about the removed part! Please help!
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Well, this was a challenge! No, you don't share the same great-great-anything,
because the "removed" means that you are a different number of generations away
from a set of ancestors than is George Washington.
George Washington's great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-grandparents
(8 greats) would be your great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great
-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great-grandparents (16 greats).
-- Mark
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My family is having a hard time figuring this out.
What would my grandpa's grand-nephew be to me?
We think it's either a second cousin twice removed
or second cousin once removed.
Can you explain this to us please?
Thanks for your time.
We really appreciate it.
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Your grandfather's grand-nephew would be your second cousin.
There are no removeds in this relationship, because your grandfather's
grand-nephew and you are both the same number of generations from your
first common ancestors, which would be your great-grandparents.
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Your Great-Grandparents
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Grandpa
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--- siblings ---
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Grandpa's sibling
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Your parent
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--- first cousins ---
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Grandpa's niece or nephew
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You
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--- second cousins ---
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Grandpa's grandnephew
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-- Mark
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Mark I went to your website and it is quite interesting.
I have a question for you. My parents were divorced and my
mother remarried to a man who I believe is her second cousin.
(My mother's mother and my step-father's father were first cousins
since they had a set of common grandparents).
I have two half-brothers from my mother's second marriage.
Are these half brothers also my third cousins?
And my step brother and sister, are they my third cousins as well?
What is my stepfather to me as far as cousins go?
Thanks for your help,
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My compliments! You have done an excellent job of identifying relationships.
I hope you don't mind me using your excellent questions on my Web site!
Yes, your mother married her second cousin because her own mother
and her second husband's father were first cousins.
Yes, your half-brothers, as well as your step-brother and step-sister,
are also your 3rd cousins because they share the same great-great-grandparents
as you do through their father's line.
Your step-father is also your "second-cousin once-removed."
A few other interesting points ...
Your half-brothers are great-great-grandchildren of your
great-great-grandparents twice -- both through your mother's line and
through their father's line.
Your half-brothers are related to your mother both as her children
and as her "second-cousins once-removed." They are also related to their
father, both as his children and as his "second-cousins once-removed."
Your half-brothers are related to your grandmother, both as her
grandchildren and as her "first-cousins twice-removed."
If your half-brothers have children, they will be your
half-nieces/nephews (through your mother's line), as well as being
your "third-cousins once-removed" (through your step-father's line).
-- Mark
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I have a question regarding naming. My step-grandson is named David
Charles Smith II. (names changed for privacy)
His father is David L. Smith.
My late husband was
the baby's grandfather and his name was David Charles Smith.
Is II the correct ending to use for his name?
Also, am I considered the
step-grandmother even though the baby is no blood relation to me?
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I presume that the baby is "II" since his father had a
different middle name, while the baby has precisely the same three
names as his grandfather.
Yes, for genealogical purposes I would consider you the
step-grandmother of the baby, although that may or may not be
your legal relationship, depending on the laws of your state.
-- Mark
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Hello I'm [hopeful] that you can be some help to me.
This girl and I have been talking for a while now,
but my mom says that we are cousins.
So is there anything wrong with cousins going out [and]
engaging in sexual relations, by any means in biblical
or laws that have been set? In our case?
Let me explain this girl grandmother is my grandmother second cousin
and my moms third. So this girl mother would be my grandmother
third cousin and my moms fourth cousin. And the girl herself
would be my grandmother fourth cousin and my mom fifth,
leaving her to be my sixth cousin, right?
Well can you please
break this down to me in scientific terms and dummy terms.
So I can break this to my mother because I really like this girl.
Thanks
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I was a little confused by your calculations.
Let's start over.
If the girl's grandmother and your own grandmother are
truly second cousins, that would mean that you have a great-grandparent
who was first cousin to one of the girl's great-grandparents.
It would also mean that you have a great-great-grandparent
who was brother or sister to one of the girl's great-great-grandparents.
It would also mean that the first ancestor that you and the girl
have in common would be a great-great-great-grandparent.
If those things are true, then your grandmother and the girl's
grandmother were, indeed, second cousins.
Then these things would also be true ...
One of the girl's parents would be third cousin to your mother.
The girl would be "third-cousin once-removed" to your mother.
The girl would be "fourth-cousin" to you.
That is not as close a relationship as most of the ones people write
to me about. Being fourth cousins means that 2 of your 32
great-great-great-grandparents were also 2 of the girl's 32
great-great-great-grandparents. You and she share 1/16 of your ancestors.
Now, your genetic relationship may be somewhat more or less than 1/16, because
so many genetic combinations are possible each time that a baby is born.
I'm not aware of any particular laws or religious rulings specifically about
relationships between fourth-cousins. In fact, that relationship is
distant enough that there have probably been many people who married their
own fourth cousin without realizing it.
But, because some of the relationships you calculated in your e-mail
to me were incorrect, go back and recalculate to be sure you really know what
your relation to her is.
And, someone might want to avoid even a relationship as distant
as fourth-cousins if there is any specific hereditary disorder that
runs in the family line that you share with her.
-- Mark
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Hiya,
Your "What's A Second Cousin Twice Removed?" webpage
is very interesting, and has got me thinking about
what my relationship is with people in my family.
1) My mum's cousin
2) My mum's cousin's children
3) My mum's cousin's grandchildren
1) Is my mum's "first cousin" my "first cousin once
removed"?
2) As my mum's "first cousin's children" and I share
the same great-grandparents, are they my second
cousins?
3) Are my mum's "first cousin's grandchildren" my
second cousin's once removed, and if so, will my
children be their third cousin's?
Many Thanks
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1) Yes.
2) Yes.
3) Yes. Yes.
Excellent job!
-- Mark
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I receive many e-mail messages asking about whether it is "right" (ethical, moral,
etc.) for second or third cousins to marry.
The writers are hoping for a simple "yes" or "no" answer.
But, this is a more complicated question than the writers presume, because there are
so many degrees of relationship, and so many factors that can be involved.
People are seeking a definitive answer for a question that has a thousand variations.
So, to all of you with this question, here is my response ...
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The information that I present on my Web site is genealogical.
The information that you are requesting is ethical.
Legal is yet another area to consider.
At one extreme, marrying a very close relative is called "incest"
in many cultures and religions, and can result in an increased probability
that genetic problems will show up in the offspring of that marriage.
At the other extreme, we are likely to be distant relatives of almost
everyone we know, because of the doubling of families involved every generation
one goes back on the family tree. As I say on the top of my main Web page,
"You have two families to consider when you think of your parents. Four families
are involved with your grandparents. Going back just five generations gives you 32
families to research. Keep multiplying ... go back 20 generations and you'll be
studying your 1,048,576 family surnames in your spare time."
So, the question isn't a simple yes or no question about relationship.
The question is HOW CLOSE a relationship is okay. Close relationship is
problematic, but you'll have some relationship to most people, even if you
don't know it.
I think that most people would believe that marriages between siblings or
between parent and child would be wrong -- ethically and legally. Risk of genetic
problems showing up in the children of such very close relationships would be
very significant.
On the other hand, most people wouldn't worry, and probably wouldn't
even realize, marriages between sixth cousins or seventh cousins. The risk
of hereditary problems in the children would be much smaller for such distant
relationships.
But you see, the risk is a matter of degree, with first cousins being
more at risk of having children with hereditary problems than are second cousins,
but second cousins being more at risk than with third cousin relationships, and so
on. Since the risk varies by degree, rather than being "yes, a risk," or "no,
not a risk" this is a question that you will have to answer for yourself after you
have studied the issues, thought about the values involved, and searched your own
heart.
About laws and marriages between relatives ... Laws very from state to state,
and from country to country. In some places first cousins can legally marry.
In other places, they can't.
You're less likely to find a law against second or third cousin marriages.
I can not advise you on the ethics of your second or third cousin relationship,
because it is not my role to make such decisions for you. Hopefully some of
the information on my Web site, and in this e-mail, will help you study the
question in relation to your own religious beliefs and family values, and in
relation to any concerns about genetic conditions that are, or might be, in
your family genes.
In past centuries, marriages between second cousins were not uncommon.
In early American history, even marriages between first cousins weren't all that
uncommon -- simply because there weren't all that many people in many parts of
America in those earlier years.
Today second and third cousin marriages are probably less common because people
are more aware of the greater risks of problems showing up in the children
because children of relatives are more likely to inherit two recessive genes
for a given characteristic. This combination of two recessive genes is
problematic more often than it is beneficial.
But, this is all about probability of risks, rather than about a
certainty of defects, so answering your question would just boil down to my
opinion, rather than science. Hopefully you will carefully weigh all of the
factors and risks to make your own wise and ethical decision.
And, there are countless other factors that can make each situation
different. For example, if both of the second cousins who want to marry
are 83-years of age, then we can skip the part about hereditary conditions
in their future children.
Regarding risk to future children, you can consult with a genetic
scientist for help in making your decision.
Regarding the ethical implications of your decision, you can consult a
leader in your own religion or culture.
Regarding the legalities of your decision, check the laws of your own
State / Province / Country.
If you are a minor, you will need to follow the guidance of your parents
or guardian.
-- Mark
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My daughter recently married and she plans to adopt children,
even though there is no reason to doubt that she can have real children.
She even mentioned the possibility of adopting mixed-race children.
I'm so angry I don't know what to do.
What can I do to save my family?
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You could move far away, so that your attitude doesn't harm
your daughter or her children. -- Mark
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