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The Tattoo

--- Making a Permanent Impression Since 1994 ---

March 31, 1997


The dating game ain't easy to play

Tattoo Staff Writer
  Has this ever happened to you?
  You meet a guy, you think he is so great that
you ask him out, he says yes and everything is
perfect ... or so you think.
  Two weeks later he calls you, apologizes in
advance for what he’s about to do, and then BAM!
tells you it’s not working out. 
  Not working out? For who? Certainly not for
  What about him? Wasn’t he the one who told you
no less then 24 hours ago how much you meant to
him and how happy he was?
  Then he hangs up on you and the next day you
see him cuddling with your best friend after
school in 'your spot.' Sound familiar?  
  Dating is something we all do. Every weekend
we get dressed up and go out to flaunt and put
on a show for the opposite sex. Why ?
  Sure, having someone call you to see how your
day was, and knowing that person will be there
for you is a great thing when you and your
“‘rents” have a war.
  What about the down side? Having a member of
the opposite sex adore your every word and
movement is a difficult and extremely time-
consuming task to have in your life. You have to
spend 75% of your day being with or talking to
that person or else the relationship never seems
to work.
  And dating can give even the most cool,
collected person an ulcer, wondering why her
mate hasn’t called her at the 6:30 p.m. time
when he always calls. This can leave her racking
her brain for what seems like hours about what
she could have done wrong. Until, at 6:37, the
phone finally rings. 
  Who needs that? Believe it or not most,
including myself, do. Sure, you can complain and
moan that your relationship takes up too much of
your time and that you’re not happy.
  Well if you’re not content, then get out of
your current relationship. If you are happy and
have no reason to complain but do it anyway,
then knock it off. 
  What a relationship requires, in my humble
opinion, is time, patience, and room to grow. If
you feel that you cannot give your relationship
100% of those three things then maybe you should
stay out of the dating scene for awhile to think
about your priorities ­ and decide what you want
and can give to a relationship.