For starters, no matter who you are, you will more than likely be working
without an original birth certificate, unless the adoptee got it when PA
records were open for a while. Currently, it is highly unlikely you
will get one. The records are closed to adoptees wanting their original
birth certificates, but it never hurts to try.
Birthparents cannot find out
their "child's" name after adoption either from the birth certificate as
they are not entitled to one, having given up rights to the child. The
adoptee gets an amended birth certificate listing only the adoptive
parents, and uses his or her adopted name. Birthparents will get nothing if
they request the birth certificate post-adoption because, having
relinquished parental rights they are advised they have no further interest
in the birth. Depending on the birthmother or anyone who may have influenced
the process, the birthfather's name may or may not be present on the
original birth certificate. Sometimes for
financial aid or to avoid a paternity dispute, it was deemed best to not
name the birthfather.
If you are an adoptee, ask for your birth certificate
anyhow -- mistakes happen. Get whatever info you can from elsewhere and
you may be able to make some assumptions, you might get lucky when you get
non-id with some critical tidbit, you might get someone who blurts something
that will help you build a foundation for your search. The tips below
should help you do this.
- Organize yourself. Get files and notebooks, keep a sheet
accumulating the info you have learned, and a log showing what you did,
when, and the results. Not only will this keep you organized, it will
show you where you are and have been which comes in handy during those
down times. It also gives you an area in which to brainstorm.
Under a tab heading in your binder, make a place for all the documents you have
accumulated in your search. This should include copies of (always place
originals in a safe place) your birth certificate, final adoption decree,
non-identifying information....anything else you can find. If you are a
birthparent, this might include a copy of the original birth certificate,
relinquishment (if you have it), your maternity records, anything else
pertaining to the birth or adoption. When you are
ready to register at different sites, you will have the information at hand and
will not have to hunt for it. Also, you now have an idea of what you have
and as you gain more information, you can update with new
information.
Today, with the use
of computers and internet, there is very little paperwork to keep track of,
however, you need to keep track of what sites you find, their URL (address),
what you did there and what you can expect from them.
Since you are on computer, you no doubt have access to email. It is important to
have a tab title for e-mail you would like to save, or a chart to organize
e-mail addresses. Always remember, just because the computer is stationary,
your files are not. Occasionally your hard drive will fritz, the delete key will
eat your mail, you can often misplace an item, or gremlins will do unspeakable
things to your correspondence. It is always good to have a written log of who
you have written and their address.
Make another tab title for search sites you visit that you can use for
information. Remember bookmarks can fail. Just put the URL site address and a
description of the site for future reference.
-
Make a Registry Chart on a plain piece of paper (or a spreadsheet program) make the
following title
headers:
Date
Registry Name
Address (URL)
Registered (Yes/No)
Fee?
Updated (Weekly/Daily/Monthly)
User Id
Password?
Using a registry chart you can keep track of which registries you have visited,
if you registered there, the address to get back to it if your bookmarks fail,
if you had to pay a fee to register and for how long the registration fee is,
and when they update the registry to see any new registrations that may pertain
to your search or update your registration. If you are assigned an user id
and password to allow you access to
update or search, write it down. Believe me, you will forget!
- Adoptees should pay the required fee and if your birth parents
registered with the state Biological Parent Registry. Birth
Parents should make sure they register. Info on this is available
through the PA Department of Health.
PA also has a health registry where birth parents register health
information and the adoptee can check to see if the birth parent(s) is
registered with updated medical information. Information regarding
this registry is also available through the PA Department of Health.
- Register with the International Soundex Reunion Registry (ISRR).
Information regarding this registry can be found at
www.isrr.org.
- Register with the PA Adoption Reunion Registry (PARR). This is
NOT a state run registry but one of the only registry in PA that is
available to register on line and those registered are searchable
online. Information pertaining to PARR can be found at
www.paadoptionreunionregistry.org
- Adoptees should talk as much as you can to
their parents. They
may know more than they would volunteer, but might share with you if you
ask. It is understandable to be scared of hurting them so you may
want to explain that your searching has nothing to do with them but
everything to do with yourself.
Also talk to other family members such as aunts, uncles, and cousins to
try and get additional information.
- Adoptees please consider the social climate of
the time and place you were in at birth. If the adoption was a
private adoption, who may have been the intermediary? Could a
priest have helped your parents? Are you close to a relative you
can ask? Are your parents friends with someone in a position of
influence? Do they have any close friends that are attorneys? Do
your parents have friends with adopted children and they all maybe used
the same lawyer, intermediary, or agency?
-
If you are an adoptee you should request non id
from both the agency/attorney and the court in which the adoption was
finalized to increase the odds of what you get. PA law does not
define what is considered non identifying information so each person may
give you different info. In addition, the quality of that
information will vary. I encourage
live appointments where possible to build rapport and to give that other
person a chance to "slip"- on purpose or by accident and give you the info
that you need. There may be a very few good souls who will put some info or
clue on a table and then have to go to the bathroom, leaving you alone with
it. I would also ask point blank for "photocopies of the original records
with identifying info deleted, not a summary". The reasons for this are
manifold: one -- someone could miss something that should have been whited-out;
two -- summaries are just that- short and sweet, retyped by someone in a rush
to get it done; three- when stuff is whited out from a typed document you can
often figure out how many digits or letters were removed by lining the
covered area up visually with the line above it.
Birthparents can try getting non-id but in many cases they may be told it
is not available to them since they gave up an interest in the child. Some
agencies and attorneys are open about this some are not.
- Whether you are a birthparent or an adoptee,
file waivers of confidentiality. This is to reassure record keepers that
if the persons you specify come looking for you, you WANT them to get
your identifying info. There are no guarantees, but it may very well
help. You want to file these with the agency, attorneys, but especially with the county court in which
the adoption was finalized, which is usually the county the adoptive parents
lived at the time of the adoption. If you are a birth parent and do not know what county your child was
adopted to, you want to find this out so you file your waiver in the right
court. You may be able to get this thru your agency if you just tell them
why you need it- to file the waiver. If not, you should be able to ask for
it from the Bureau of Vital Statistics. To clarify: where an adoptee was
relinquished and where the adoption was finalized are not the same thing
necessarily. For example, I was born in Allegheny County but my adoption was finalized
in Westmoreland County, where my adoptive parents lived.
- Post your search on the PARR mailing list regularly- you never know who
is reading, and where it could get forwarded to. Forward your search info to
appropriate places. There really are people who just do tons of forwarding
in the hopes your info gets under the right nose. Bless those angels! Be
sure to include in your post permission to forward.
Post your info any and everywhere. Go to any search engine and do a search on
"adoption registries" or similar words- and start registering.
- Adoptees should place an ad in major
newspaper(s) serving your birth city.
Birthparents should place one in both adopted and birth cities as well. Pray
that the right person sees it, or that someone who recognizes the info sees
it and remembers their neighbor or classmate or cousin. It doesn't cost a
lot. Take the long shots.
- If you read info on a registry about PA
searches, copy and post it to the list in case it helps anyone. Always
get and mention the web address too in case we get a match.
- PARR's database
is viewable online. This
is an easy list for us all to
print out and keep by the computer so we can look out for each other when websurfing. Also,
feel free to send it on to other places or post it other places
to help us all. We have a lot of folks who just read posts and that's okay-
but what if the party you seek is on the list and also only reads? What if I
mistype your info in my database? You'll never know! Please send your info
to the list periodically!
- Post to the
PARR mailing list any problems you run into on your way. it's likely someone here
could have found a way around it, have a letter that could help, or ideas.
Ask for help.
- If you are an adoptee and know the doc that delivered you, make an
appointment to see him/her or write a letter. You may pay for an office
visit, but you can thank the doc personally and see what you can get. Many
doctors destroy records after the statute of limitations but some do not.
- If adopted, find out if your hospital had
birth journals- small handwritten books of births, often called ob/gyn logs. You can try the
records dept, archives dept, or the birth registrar's office, division of
medical records. Wherever you go, try not to say the word "adoption"
but try "genealogical research". Keep in mind that hospitals
are not required to keep your actual records forever.
- Birth moms should contact the hospital and doctor and billing departments
of hospitals to get their records. Who knows what you will find? Did someone
else pay your bill? If you went through a private ob/gyn get those too.
- If you are an adoptee kept any length of time
by your birth parents and
you know their religion, check with affiliated area churches. Maybe you were
baptized.
- Birth parents- if you know your child went to a
family with a particular religion (maybe of your choosing) you could try
to do the same, maybe over a six-month period.
- Orphan search? You can try calling the Catholic
churches that are around orphanages to obtain baptismal, 1st communion
and
any other info they might have. They may keep it in a separate book.
- Adoptees, if you know your birth parents' high schools, colleges, tech
schools, try to get or go see in the library copies of the annual year books, or
post for help on the PARR Mailing list- maybe we can get info for each
other. You can maybe look for resemblance (may work for some) or maybe
you have a first name and can contact all those people. Find the school
website; maybe there is alumni info or people to contact. Find people
who may have been in your birth mom's class- people remember who
disappeared, whose sick aunt in another town needed caring for, or was
pregnant visibly.
- If you are an adoptee and do not know how long
your birth mom kept you, try contacting the primary newspapers in your town of birth to try
to get your birth notice. Often, if it was known the birth mom intended to
relinquish a child the hospital would not give the birth info to the
newspapers- some actually would stamp "DNP" on the records (Do Not
Publish) so no mistake would be made. HOWEVER- if no decision had been
made at the time of your birth it is possible it made it to the paper. A
long shot, but worth a phone call or two.
- If you are a birth parent, do what you can to
keep a working phone number with your name in the town your "child" may
look for you- the name you went by (maiden or assumed) when you had your
child. Maybe you have a friend or relative there you trust. The city
part is not crucial, but it could be helpful if your child is not online and thus does not have access to "whole country" searches with a
name. Make sure you are listed in all the major look-ups on the Internet.
- Birth parents should consider keeping informal
"tabs" on the other biological parent
to the adoptee so when the time comes they can be easily located.
- If you are on an instant message service with
member directories, either adoptees or birth parents can look at cities people live in in their
profiles as well as at their ages. You can locate regional people who seem happy to help in
lookups. You could use this same system with no name to try to find
classmates of someone you seek too, to see if they remember anyone having to
leave school. Obviously use some discretion since you are talking with a
stranger, but in general people are very cooperative. If you instant message
them they
look it up on the spot generally and if she can't instant message them send
an email.
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