Reality
Reality is something that every person who is brought into this world experiences. It is a known fact that every human being experiences it differently. Reality is the spoken or written words and actions of outsiders. Reality is the wind, the sky, mountains, rivers and man made objects. Reality is viewed the way it is learned. This view can be skewed by how one self is processing external and internal realities. External reality is measured in moments, while internal reality as a life time. Time. Reality is active and passive.

Residence
Members (parts myself) reside or exist on a spectrum divided into fragments of past realities. The spectrum stretches from one extreme of social and anti-social coping behaviors. Sociable members are protected from the reality of anti-social realities, since there are strongly learned sociable behaviors. Reality has taught the members what is required of them, in one form or another, thus building their strength, the walls. This is the reason why, even when co-existing in reality, sociable behaviors take precedence, and the host, usually, appears quite healthy to outsiders.

Filing System
Information from reality may be taken in and processed by one of more members. Instant reaction to reality may or may not take place, based on a members learned coping skills. Information, whether passive or active is processed by the host and all present members, immediately.

Active File
Even though many of the members are well defined in their own function or behavior, their presentation to Reality is skewed by the active memory. The active memory is the current functioning of mind and emotions. Thoughts and feelings which may be out of the realm of the members make-up are processed and discarded into an area of the mind which could be accessed by all members. If not discarded, they are acted upon, again based on that members make-up.

Inactive File
Discarded feelings and thoughts are stored in a place we’ll call (purgatory). A resting place or filing cabinet full of resolved and unresolved concepts. Resolved concepts may actually ONLY appear resolved, based solely on that members make-up. Other concepts may be those which are retrieved from the other side of the wall. They are learned through discussion in therapy or in some cases, triggered. Concepts which are triggered are especially confusing, as they resemble reality, but aren’t. This is also most commonly a place where members may reside when not host to or co-existing in reality. Concepts, feelings and thoughts may be transferred between members who may be present in this state, since it resembles a conference room, or a garden. Transfer may also be unintentional because of dreams and conferences.

The wall
The wall protects the members, especially the first born, from past realities. Members residing on the dark side of the wall are not commonly known to other members. The wall is a great brick structure with one visible gate which leads from the garden. Feelings, thoughts and concepts which cannot be effectively (safely) dealt with, are behind locked doors and passages. Some of the several doors beyond the wall are unlocked. Beyond the unlocked doors are others which remain locked. There are members who straddle the wall or reside beyond the wall who maintain the ability to freely transfer some known thoughts, feelings and concepts, as necessary. Other times, these members briefly expose themselves to reality for the sole purpose of survival, and may or may not be of one’s self freewill.

Collision
Members become overwhelmed and tainted due to the collision of reality and past reality. The collision of reality, with that in purgatory, can send a member straight to hell. Unable to differentiate the two, the hosting member may act out. Acting out may be uncharacteristic of the member, but may be driven by the members who may have shared the original reality or similarities thereof. Dangerously acting upon the tainted layers of one’s self is actively monitored by those members who have safe methods of coping. Members who may not commonly dwell on ending their world, may be party to the idea, because of the layers of one’s self and the spectrum on which they reside. Tainting one’s self, the layering of emotions, may be confusing to an outsider who may not recognize the purity of hosting member. The acting out of fierce anger may not be part of one’s make-up, but offered and shared, as a mechanism to cope with the situations brought on by the collision. Even when not party to, a host or observer of, a member may appear alive with the passages of realities. In the first person, rather than the third, the acting out tends to add to the confusion of the outside observer and is most troubling to the purity of the host. The collision may appear to provide a whole person whom is acting to the concept, in sorts. But as time passes, the feelings, thoughts and concepts are sorted, divided and stored.

Emotional abuse. - Even when the entire world tells one’s self that they are bad, they are also telling one’s self how to behave sociably. As long as the words and the actions can be dissected and stored into separate areas of the spectrum, one’s self can be taught through words the importance of being good. The words tell one’s self that bad things happen to bad people. Therefore one must be very good. One has learned never tell anyone that they have done or have been party to bad things. One has learned to never ever act bad in reality or it will proven that one is bad. The essence of charading as a good person to reality can be exhausting. The whole concept is confusing to those who are experiencing collision. The utter thought of past realities depict the badness in one’s self. A damnation that one was so bad and acted so bad and they were continually taught to be good. Self blame and dwelling. Seeking out the truths and running from them. The entire process of living, learning and changing is exhausting.

Reality tends to repeat itself in subtle ways.

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