Chenoa asks: How does one learn to cope with missed conversations, when you have folks jumping in and out on you, without your knowledge? I've been having problems for the past several years with this happening. People I talk to tell me I said such and such, and I have no recollection.
The most recent one was with my son. I started to say something, then must have had a change in personnel, because when I came back, I was unaware of any gap in time (it was only for a minute or so...) - and got mad at him for interrupting me.
He informed me I had not only not been interrupted, but had completed my statement (which he repeated back to me) - then told me that I gave him a look which he has come to interpret as, "don't cross this line." He had quieted down, when I showed back up. I was indeed interrupted, but not by him.
Anyone have any clues as to how I can deal with this? It's not the first time, but it seems to be getting worse.
doltaghey writes: This sort of thing is our biggest problem. I have to keep asking my husband "Did I tell you such-and-such?". He helps by leaving reminders of important things so no matter who's out, the important things get done. (Usually). Of course sometimes these reminders have *too good* of an effect. Like when we pay bills twice. :0 I think what helped us most was coming out to our partner and telling him we were multiple, so then he knew why we have these memory-lapses. Of course if your partner is not supportive that wont be much help. We were just lucky, I guess.
Emily writes: This will sound really weird, but prior to therapy we had a member who quickly filled us in as we switched. Pretty nice when it worked because we didn't just "POP" in without warning. Another skill we developed as a child was to never be alone; there were always three members present in some form or another.
Over the years we have had to learn new skills because the old ones didn't work like they used to. In therapy my T makes us ask within. At first this was very frustrating ~ why didn't he just tell us? But really, I learned to communicate.
