From one
multiple to another
Returning to
school
Riversrage, I am a Multiple
who is turning 47 in two months. I decided last fall to return to school
and become a group counselor. I want to work with others who have the
struggles and victories that I have. I believe that this is what I need to do in
order to fill my role in the world in which I live. I would like to work
with pregnant teens, or addicts/alcoholics, or others with PTSD, DID,
Borderline, or depression. I have lived with these disorders as far back
as I and my alters will allow me to, can remember. I have over the past
few years really been searching for my spirituality within. I truly
believe that this is what God, or whomever your Higher Power happens to be,
wants me to do with my life. My alters have really the ones going to
school, but I watch and learn over their shoulders. It's really been a
validating experience. If I could share anything with other Multiples,
especially those who have just received their Dx, I want to say that if you try
to work within your system, you can do anything you want to. Going back to
school is just that for me.
Susan
Blending
Submitted by SCW
Have been reading some of the
Q & A's about blending and it's caused me to do a lot of processing.
First, I need to be willing to feel what my "family" feels. I
need to be willing to sit with those emotions without "leaving" them
with it. Next, I need to start staying present when they do come out and
be with them, all of them, whether they're sociable or anti-sociable. I
need to find out why the anti-sociable ones have the behaviors they do.
Then, finally, I need to start referring to me and them as us. Whether
it's September Grace (the student) or Caretaker, or anyone else, when one of
them is out I need to speak in the pronoun we. That means to me that I am
willing to stick it out with them, share with them and they with me, and be
allies with them. If anybody has any thoughts on this, please let me know.
I don't know if I'm off the wall with this line of thinking or not.
Nurturing the Littles
Submitted by Little Girl
When my little ones are frightened in side me I sing
lullabies to
them and it helps a lot. Some times it makes them come out but they
need a lot of attention because they are in body's that make it
difficult for other children their age to play with. Mine all hate the
word mommy
love little girl age 14
Getting
Through IT
Submitted by Salome
It's real important that we don't struggle, it only causes a riot. I have to talk kindly and understandingly to everyone and they are reassured we are not in the pain anymore and we get better.
Just came out of about a 8 day spin. I've learned to just do "pattern" of regular schedule and not do anything extra. In a spin, thoughts can't be held for too long, feelings are hurt easily, have a hard time talking to the people around me (that I know) and [it's] harder to get out of the house. Friends get their feelings hurt.
Only a few I can say, sometimes I'm here, but I'm not here. Then there I am, I'm back.
Keeping Track
Submitted by Deanna Kice
I have found having a calender in a place where I can see it frequently helps me remember the day, time, and where I am. Having a special blanket and stuffed animals helps my children.
Encouragement and trying
something new
Submitted by Jill
I just finished a book called "The Stranger in the Mirror" and found it to be of some help. Those of you that need more information might benefit from this.
We are 15, we think. We stopped therapy for a while, trying to cope, but just started therapy again. Find a good doctor, continue getting help. Encourage the positive ones inside and have the courage to try new things that "pop" into your head.
I would never have thought I could paint, nor would I have ever tried, but someone close to me said "what would happen if you can't?" And my goodness, I CAN paint. Imagine that!! Yes, there is pain and confusion, but there is also joy that is locked away inside. Help it out, it's okay to feel good about yourselves.
Cold Anything! Grounding
Ruth writes:
The best way of grounding and getting back into reality for any in my system is
to put the bottom of the feet in cold water, cold floor, cold grass, cold mud
puddle, cold water in the tub. The bottom of the feet is the most
sensitive spot and this helps us get back into the safety of today's reality.
Please submit your tips, and check back again soon.