Helping mother and her unborn baby with EFT
The client I worked with in this case is a young woman who became pregnant by accident
as they say in Germany. She had been living with the father of her unborn child for a while without having the intention to get married.
This is very common in Germany, and more often the case as is getting married before moving in with each other.
Gina (not her
real name) started to feel physically ill right from the start of her pregnancy. Then in her third month her days were filled with
vomiting, sleeping, vomiting again and falling back into bed, completely exhausted. She was unable to keep any food down; she had
given up eating and lost weight rapidly. Whenever she tried anything at all it would come up right away, leaving her in a very uncomfortable
state. She was extremely weak physically. Her doctor was very concerned and talked about having her stay in the hospital where they
would feed her through an IV. She already was put on medication that was supposed to stop the vomiting which it didnt. This had
gone on for weeks when she contacted me for a phone session.
When I asked her how she felt about having this tiny little baby
inside her she said: I think the baby must feel like being on a terrible rollercoaster, moving all around so violently while I am
sick and throwing up. Gina also mentioned that the baby is too much of a responsibility and I dont really want it. It is going
to change my life completely and I am not ready for that. She told me that she had always wanted to be independent; being pregnant
for her meant that she was tied down, totally dependent on what it would do to her, not able to do the things she wanted to do whenever
she felt like it.
"Even though I dont like to be dependent
Even though that freaks me out
Even though all my life I
have avoided to be tied down in any way
..
I do accept myself and my tiny baby inside
Even though I am scared out of my mind
.. I dont want to be responsible for another person
.I am concerned enough with myself
. and this other person would be
a tiny baby
so completely dependent on me
scares the hell out of me
.. makes me vomit all the time
.
every single thought
of it makes me go again
. vomiting over and over
.. trying to get my inside out
. trying to make this whole thing go away
.
trying so hard to get over it
.. trying so hard to let go of it
.. trying so hard to disconnect
. but it doesnt
work
"
I asked her to imagine the tiny baby inside; to picture the forces inside her when she had to throw up. I pointed out
to her what a fighter this little one seemed to be; no food and all this holding on! We had a giggle about that.
"Even though
I cant get out of my responsibility
.. no matter how much I vomit
this tiny little being is holding on to me
. having one
wild ride after the other
holding on for life
. holding on to me
its mother
. holding on to stay with me
holding on
to life
.. so small and so determined
. with no food to grow on
.. almost starving
.
I now choose to acknowledge
. that
my baby is a fighter
. this baby demands my respect
. and my admiration
.. most of all
I feel I need to support it
to give
it a chance
. to feed it
. as well as I can
. and I will
"
Then Gina told me: When I was growing up my Mom always took away my
key so I could not come and go the way I wanted to. When I was home late she hit me with a wooden spoon. I felt so at her mercy and
so very helpless! I was not allowed to make any decisions at all. My parents decided for me. They had no clue who I was as a person.
I even told my Mom: Hit me until Im dead; thats okay with me. Why dont you just kill me? I dont want to live with all these restrictions.
At that time I promised myself I would never again be dependent on anyone!
There it was.
Gina reported that her esophagus hurt
a lot as she talked. I asked her to imagine what it would look like inside the esophagus. She described it like this: It feels very
restricted, narrow and most of all violated. I have a hard time breathing. Each time I have to vomit it gets worse. My esophagus feels
the same way I feel. It has no influence on what happens to it; just has to suffer and accept everything that happens!
Here
is some of what we tapped on:
"Even though my esophagus feels violated
. just like me
. has no saying in what happens
..
just like me
I choose to accept the fact that because Im pregnant my body is changing
. hormones are soaring
.Mother Nature
does all that to me without asking
just like Mom did then
and I feel violated again
. I do understand that now!
Even though
I feel have no control
. hormones are doing what they want
I now choose to open up my heart for my baby
my baby waits for
my help
. just like I waited for help when Mom hit me
. but nobody came to rescue me...
my baby needs me
. real bad
. to feed it
. to protect it
. to make it feel safe
. no matter what
. so it can start growing
and living
. in the best possible
way
and only I can provide that
. all of it...
Even though my baby had to suffer so much until now
. all those wild rollercoaster
rides
. I feel ready now
to take over control
. to stop vomiting
Im sick and tired of it any way
. I want my life back
.
thats why I now choose to do whatever possible
. to calm down
. to make my body calm down
. so the baby will be stabilized
.
I now choose to let this feeling in
. that's been waiting for a while
. deep down inside of me
. a sweet loving
feeling for my baby
. that precious brave little baby
.. waiting for me to make it feel safe
. and happy ...
Even though I need
to control this throwing-up
.. too much for the baby
.. too many wild rides
. and no food
.
I now choose to take over
.
for both of us
. that feels very good!
I now choose
. to spare the baby any more convulsions
.. I am going to stop vomiting
..
very soon now
.
and I choose to look forward to the time when I feel better
.. no vomiting
. baby safe and growing
.. starting
to eat again
. with a good appetite
. my baby will love that!"
During our next session a few days later Gina told me she had
seen the baby on ultrasound and was stunned by how tiny it was. She had reduced her vomiting to about twice a day and was eating fully
and with a good appetite. She told me she imagined the baby catching the food that came down through her now improved esophagus. Gina
had even started to go outside for walks, feeling much better each time. She told me that she wished the baby were born already; she
was looking forward to having it.
Gina is now late in her seventh month of pregnancy. She just got married to the man who is
the father of her unborn baby. The baby obviously is growing at a healthy rate and Mom and Baby are feeling great thanks to EFT!
Don't
you just love it??? I do.
Baerbel Froehlin, CHt./HypnoCoach, EFT-ADV
Gary Craigs comments:
Baerbel Froehlin does
a first class job in this article of allowing her intuition to find an important core issue. Note how she lets her EFT language
flow until the important issue shows up. This is the mark of a truly experienced EFT'er.