We Learn What We Live
If a child lives with criticism,
he learns to condemn.
If a child lives with fear,
he learns to be afraid.
If a child lives with hostility,
he learns to fight.
If a child lives with ridicule,
he learns to be shy.
If a child lives with shame,
he learns to feel guilty.
If a child lives with tolerance,
he learns to be patient.
If a child lives with encouragement,
he learns confidence.
If a child lives with praise,
he learns to appreciate.
If a child lives with fairness,
he learns justice.
If a child lives with security,
he learns to have faith.
If a child lives with approval,
he learns to like himself.
If a child lives with acceptance and friendship,
he learns to love the world.
For a short time, I was entrusted and empowered,
by someone much higher than myself, to guide my
children into adulthood. In the beginning I was
responsible for their health, welfare and every possible
detail connected to their well being.
The purpose or end result is to "let go" and allow
the child to grow, inter-act and live on their own,
as an adult.
Children silently learn by observing actions
and will mimic speech, conduct and behaviors
that are displayed by the people around them.
Children are born with the full ability to express
all their emotions and feelings. They are silently
taught to hide them through observation. Encourage
open and honest expression. It is perfectly okay to
cry, laugh, feel disappointed, giggle, to be sad,
embarrassed or angry. It is normal to express
them completely, because they are a part of me.
Expressing all my emotions will allow me to be a full
and complete person. Hiding my emotions can
lead to endangering my own health and will
make me an incomplete person, less than
whole, who is severely lacking in a specific area.
Failure is just another form of learning, because
nothing is perfect. Failure is another opportunity
to fix what didn't work. Discussing my own
failures with my children allowed them to
understand I am not perfect and enables them to
see the positive side gained through failing.
I want my children to know that I make
mistakes, errors and fail. This is perfectly
okay and normal, but I also want them to
view them as new opportunities that are
inspiring and exciting.
More important, I must allow them to fail,
which leads to the process of learning and
growth. When the child is young, guidance
can be given by pointing out all the options
available and allowing the child to select one
that he/she feels would be best. In the beginning,
discuss briefly why the option worked or didn't work.
When the child understands these steps, step back
and allow the child to use this process without
guidance. Weaknesses and areas of strength
should become evident to the parent, which can be
used for future guidance when needed.
At times I offer guidance as a teacher and at other
times I listen as a student, learning from my child.
Since I am the parent, I must recognize my own role
and make the necessary change.
As the child begins to learn, as a parent, I must also
learn to "let go" as each lesson is attempted. My
power and dominance as a parent diminishes with
each passing day, although I am always standing in
the wings if my assistance is requested. My role as
a parent, along with everything else in my life,
changes constantly. Understanding and accepting
these constant changes is the key to enjoying each
moment of my life and maintaining an easy balance.
As each season changes and moves toward the
next, relationships will also move into new areas
of change. Accept the new changes openly with a
happy heart realizing nothing remains constant
except "change" itself. My attitude, alone, determines
how easy or difficult any change will be, therefore
I am always in control of my own happiness, which
is merely a thought away. Amazing eh!
Ginny
April, 2001
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