The post titled "
We face a deficit of empathy" had me review our, specifically my girlfriends experiences and how this "American" society treated her / us. The failure to address by the authorities, not whether we were right or wrong, this was never ascertained, complaints were rubber stamped and avoided. Then there are the alleged Christians, specifically members of the Church of God, but this applies to other denominations, they accept and use their radical brethren, just like other faiths. Pulling the radicals from their closets to justify a crusade, genocide, slavery of ethnic groups, theft, rape and then preaching Love, this occurs when one of the oppressed rises up and bloodies their nose.
Back to my girlfriend, she was an active member of the Church of God, her husband was not. What her husband had to his credit was that he was her husband, her owner and she was chattel. Lets consider what my girlfriends owner considered the duties of a wife, allowing his friends to rape her, she described him handcuffing her to the bed, his pouring Jack Daniels down her throat and giving her to his three friends as he watched. Another duty was to accept beatings, she described numerous times when she took a beating protecting the children from him and his friends, of course there was his drug use and dressing up as a woman. With the exception of this Church my girlfriend was not allowed any friends, attempts to obtain a drivers license resulted in beatings. While at a Churches summer camp with her son, the husband called up stating that he had started treatment to become a woman. At that time my girlfriend decided to take her son and leave her husband. The husband then becomes "born again" and the Church persecuted my girlfriend, one of their
minion attorneys threatened to destroy her/us. These "Church of God" people would show up and tell her that she was a sinner, an adulterer it appears that they forgot about the Bible verses that do not condone a man dressing in woman's clothes and others verses as to the treatment of wives. A little irony was that the husband had a child out of wedlock, so he was the original adulterer. During the day these church people would show up, at night and at my girlfriends employment the husband would stalk and assault. This church was not an advocate of the family, by its actions it advocates abuse, rape, gender changing and incest. So where were the other Christian Churches ? Did they show empathy ? Was there sanctuary here ? No, they wanted donations, they wanted money from the destitute. Give us your money, give us your time and we will take it - thieves and hypocrites.
Three years prior to separation my girlfriend had sought marriage counseling, the husband refused to go, his abuses resulted in mental health counseling. Social Services a secular, government organization was on my girlfriends side, they too had been threatened by the husband. They had determined that the environment in the household was not healthy. There was a six month wait for housing, the shelter would only put my girlfriend and her son up for a month. So my girlfriend moved in with some neighbors, too close, the stalking husband terrorized the family, they were so scared that they filed an ineffective restraining order and purchased a .357. This was when I met my girlfriend, the first time I saw the husband was when he returned the son from a visitation. He picked the child up and used the child as a projectile knocking the woman providing sanctuary down, she got up and removed the child from the argument. Social Services, at Northwest Center in Reston tried, my girlfriend continued with her counseling.
Now we have the "professionals", the attorneys that are supposed to represent their clients. They prey upon those weakened by "life", without oversight these individuals have no incentive to be diligent in their representation. Not one attorney retained contacted Social Services, at one point one wanted my girlfriends records, knowing something about releasing records where her innermost thoughts were being discussed she wanted them to contact her counselors, this never happened. The
attorney went to court without foundation, the
husband's attorney mentioned counseling for my girlfriend, only with a "Christian Counselor", guess what, the Judge agreed, dismissing the weak mention of my girlfriends Social Services counseling. I took her to this counseling expecting an hour session, a few minutes later my girlfriend was back, apparently they had started up with her being and adulterer and sinner. This exposed the Christian infection and the Virginia Courts, consider an American State Virginia Government Court ordering someone to see a religious counselor. There were other
questionable events that occurred with this case.
This case was followed by my girlfriend getting bitten by a neighbors dog, because she was walking, her only means of transportation, she was now bankrupt and injured. The
attorney hired to address the dog bite injury takes five years and then deserts. Apparently he was stealing his clients settlements - a profitable strategy. The Virginia State Bar eventually sends my girlfriend her files and claims that her case was still open, nothing more. When my girlfriend approached other members of the Bar they laughed, stating that the case was too old and nothing could be done. Without hope we went to a hearing on this attorney, there five Bar attorneys laughingly informed my girlfriend that she would get nothing from her
fifth attorney.
Each one of these events erodes ones self esteem and confidence in the alleged protections and rights that Americans are supposed to have. I suspect that our experiences are not just part of the 10%, I suspect that many are suffering in silence. They are silent because of the
Ad hominem attacks from these "professionals" who are quick to inform them that they are "stupid", "made a mistake", "have sour grapes", it is never the "professional" with the problem. My girlfriend has given up, I tried to get her last issues resolved
here and
here no solution there either. I can also go into the confidence one has when one calls the police for a solution, of shall we say stalking and they laugh or start picking on the closest people, of course my girlfriend reflects the traits of an abused individual, for nearly two decades she has been and then when she tries to escape the alleged professionals who supposedly represent her are nothing more than parasites. Add to that the Virginia State Bar's
avoidance policy implemented the year my girlfriends attorney
deserted.
I love the silence from the FBI and Justice Department, the authorities, as long as they can prey on dysfunctional individuals, addressing the symptoms rather than the underlying causes of failure, they are on top of them, due diligence, hurrah. But highlight an institutional trend that creates an environment of profiteering, racketeering, victimization and a mix of church and state there is silence. Did that
third attorney of ours sell out for political support from the religious right ? Did the Virginia State Bar use an out of court settlement, that her deserting attorney may have negotiated, to pay real clients ? Just why did the Virginia State Bar change its policy and avoid the "strategy" grievance ?
Meanwhile my girlfriend who fought off an abusive husband, lost her children to a corrupt court, was bitten by a neighbors dog while walking, hides in her room scared to do anything, because she is injured, not Hispanic and does not drive. With no wins, never seeing a positive outcome from anything attempted. Notable is the desertion of her children, the son who the courts denied attempted suicide, the daughter who she thought was free went back to protect the son and became the focus of her father's attentions (so she alleged to me) - thanks to the diligence of members of the Virginia State Bar members and the Virginia courts and their protecting the children. She has no self-esteem, there are no "self help" groups for victims of the system, only to reinforce the failures of the individual. Just what does this say about our society ? If my girlfriend must pay for her indiscretions then we can discuss the indiscretions of these "professional" predators and their institutions.
There is only silence and avoidance. Who cares about the self-esteem of the one, funny thing is no one knows how many "one's" there are, how many drops in the pond ? The metric is avoided, plausible deniability preserved - our members are diligent, they say without foundation.