Sexual Ethics Test

One Hundred Plus Questions

Related to Sexual Right and Wrong

 

Cluster 3

Version 1.8

1. Please indicate which of the following sexual practices you consider morally UNACCEPTABLE within the bonds of heterosexual marriage.

  1. Anal sex.
  2. Arousal at a distance, for example, by letter, phone, photograph, video, or online chat.
  3. Dominance and submission (voluntary).
  4. Fondling of private parts.
  5. Nudity with each other.
  6. Oral sex.
  7. Penile/vaginal sex, using contraception.
  8. Penile/vaginal sex, not using contraception.
  9. Petting to orgasm.
  10. Sado-masochism (voluntary).
  11. Sexual role-playing.
  12. Sharing sexual fantasies.
  13. Use of sexual toys, such as dildos.
  14. Use of blasphemous language during sex.
  15. Use of vulgar language during sex.
  16. Varying sexual positions.
  17. None of the above.

 

2. Please indicate which of the following sexual practices you consider morally ACCEPTABLE between a male and a female engaged to one another.

  1. Anal sex.
  2. Arousal at a distance, for example, by letter, phone, photograph, video, or online chat.
  3. Fondling of private parts.
  4. Nudity with each other.
  5. Oral sex.
  6. Penile/vaginal sex, using contraception.
  7. Penile/vaginal sex, not using contraception.
  8. Petting to orgasm.
  9. Sharing sexual fantasies.
  10. Use of sexual toys, such as dildos.
  11. None of the above.

 

3. Please indicate which of the following sexual practices you consider morally ACCEPTABLE between a single adult male and a single adult female in love with one another, but not engaged or married.

  1. Anal sex.
  2. Arousal at a distance, for example, by letter, phone, photograph, video, or online chat.
  3. Fondling of private parts.
  4. Nudity with each other.
  5. Oral sex.
  6. Penile/vaginal sex, using contraception.
  7. Penile/vaginal sex, not using contraception.
  8. Petting to orgasm.
  9. Sharing sexual fantasies.
  10. Use of sexual toys, such as dildos.
  11. None of the above.

 

4. Please indicate which of the following sexual practices you consider morally ACCEPTABLE between a single adult male and a single adult female NOT in love with, engaged to, or married to one another.

  1. Anal sex.
  2. Arousal at a distance, for example, by letter, phone, photograph, video, or online chat.
  3. Fondling of private parts.
  4. Nudity with each other.
  5. Oral sex.
  6. Penile/vaginal sex, using contraception.
  7. Penile/vaginal sex, not using contraception.
  8. Petting to orgasm.
  9. Sharing sexual fantasies.
  10. Use of sexual toys, such as dildos.
  11. Doing a love scene for theater or film, short of either orgasm or actual insertion of a bodily part. Please elaborate, if you think the line should be drawn differently or not at all.

  12. None of the above.

 

5. Please indicate which of the following practices and behaviors you consider morally ACCEPTABLE between a married person and any person of a different sex not his or her spouse.

  1. Anal sex.
  2. Computer sex.
  3. Declaring one's attraction.
  4. Discussing human sexuality (other than with someone in a class or in a or teaching profession).
  5. Extended personal conversation (other than with a family member or someone in a helping profession)
  6. Falling in love.
  7. Flirting.
  8. Fondling of private parts.
  9. Nudity with each other.
  10. Oral sex.
  11. Penile/vaginal sex, using contraception.
  12. Penile/vaginal sex, not using contraception.
  13. Petting to orgasm.
  14. Phone sex.
  15. Prolonged skin contact.
  16. Propositioning for sex.
  17. Sharing sexual fantasies (other than with someone in a helping profession).
  18. Sharing intimate details about one's sex life (other than with someone in a helping profession).
  19. Use of sexual toys, such as dildos.
  20. Doing a love scene for theater or film, short of either orgasm or actual insertion of a bodily part. Please elaborate, if you think the line should be drawn differently or not at all.

  21. It depends on whether the married person is male or female.
  22. It depends on the arrangements between the marital partners.
  23. None of the above.
  24. Other. Please elaborate.

 

6. What developments should factor into how far sexual relations proceed between persons of the opposite sex?

  1. Mutual willingness.
  2. Mutual desire.
  3. Desire of one and willingness of the other.
  4. One's own love.
  5. The other's love.
  6. Mutual love.
  7. Formally established ties (for example, going steady, engagement, marriage).
  8. Marriage alone.
  9. I don't know.
  10. Other. Please elaborate.

 

7. Please state whether or not autoeroticism -- that is, stimulating oneself sexually, typically to orgasm -- is wrong.

  1. Yes, it is wrong, because it it lustful.
  2. Yes, it is wrong, because it it narcissistic.
  3. Yes, it is wrong, because it entails objectifying people and intimate activities; sex should be wholly interpersonal; even if a sexual partner is present, autoeroticism breaks the interpersonal aspect of the encounter.
  4. No, it is not wrong; it is a perfectly natural and healthy way to cope with sexual tension.
  5. No, it is not wrong; in fact it is valuable in the exploration of one's own sexuality and, at times, desirable in sex play with a partner.
  6. It is wrong if done alone when a sexual partner is available, but not if one must, for practical or moral reasons, be alone sexually.
  7. It is wrong if done alone, but not if done as part of sex play with one's sexual partner.
  8. It is wrong, unless done as part of sexual arousal for purposes of reproduction within marriage.
  9. It is wrong, unless it entails longing for another.
  10. It is wrong at least for those who have taken a vow of celibacy, provided that the vow is clearly understood to exclude autoeroticism.
  11. It depends on the fantasies employed.
  12. I don't know.
  13. Other. Please elaborate.

 

8. Is being aroused by someone other than one's spouse without contact and without the other intentionally causing arousal wrong?

  1. Yes, it is wrong.
  2. No, it is not wrong.
  3. I don't know.
  4. Other. Please elaborate.

 

9. Regarding lust, after each of the following items, please answer "yes," "no," "it depends," or "I don't know." Is lust morally wrong if it is equated with:

  1. Sexual desire.
  2. The desire to possess a person.
  3. The desire for a sexual encounter that falls outside the bounds set by moral rules.
  4. The desire to disobey God.
  5. Attraction to a person's body without regard to that person's heart, mind, and personality.
  6. A physical impulse controlled by the passions rather than by reason.
  7. A momentary physical passion as distinguished from durable love.
  8. Being a physical complement of love.
  9. Other. Please elaborate.

 

 

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